The value and energy men place on their privates is astonishing. How this appendage, which primary use is to remove excess fluid and waste from the body, became the leading focal point in which a man can base his entire life upon is quite puzzling. How one’s worth could possibly be attributed to this oddly shaped member truly defies logic. Sure, this multi-use tool also functions as a pleasure center, and the means by which we pass on our genetic lineage, but have you ever thought of just how much suffering it causes?
Is it big enough? Will it please her? Is it aesthetically pleasing? Will it work when I need it to? These rhetorical questions that are internally debated seem to have somehow evaded the gatekeeper of our sanity.
I suppose this irrational fear of coming up short could be analogous to the ever obsessed about region of the female body – her breasts. The primary design of a breast was to pass on sustenance to their offspring, yet somehow society has manipulated us into thinking that the mammary gland’s primary function is to attract the opposite sex.
If we were to drill down to the lowest psychological denominator, when it came to seeking out a partner to pass their seed, a man would perceive a woman having larger breasts as being more capable of keeping their offspring alive. The trouble is this train of thought somehow continues to continually win out, even though we live in a world where breast feeding is far from mandatory. Heaven forbid if a young lady didn’t win the genetic lottery when it comes to her cup size, she might go on for years slightly yearning for an augmentation to potentially be viewed as more valuable. Let it be a well-known fact ladies, that the wildly visually altered pages of Cosmo, feeds of Instagram, and episodes of the Kardashians are far from real.
Now what about us proud men? Where did our thinking go all askew? It’s not like we walk around town noticing each other’s front middle pockets and become envious at how well-endowed a person may be behind the wall of fabric. Most pant designs rarely emphasizes a man’s genitalia anyways, so where exactly does this penis envy originate from?
The quick answer to the question is…porn.
The individual and societal problems than can be attributed to pornography are vast. I mean devastatingly HUGE. Not only men, but females alike. It misrepresents what human sexuality is about. The act of sex is far more than the repeated insertion of the penis into a vagina until climax. Sex was never initially designed to take place without intimacy. In-to-me-you-see, a connection, a bond, and a respect.
The porn industry has a tendency to employ male actors with larger than average members. And, it is certainly the dominant attitude within porn that when it comes to penis size, bigger is always better. That’s simply not the reality of what takes place in the real world. Once again, let us remind ourselves that porn, just like the Kardashians, is far from real.
The penis you were born with never asked for any of your input when it came to the width, length, shape, weight, flexibility, hairiness or colour did it? So why all the fuss? Why all the insecurity and internal conflict over something that is, and will forever will always be out of your control?
After all, the bond you seek after in relationship won’t come from your brazen domination, but rather, from a continuously worked upon emotional connection.