Top 25 Regrets I Lived With For The Last 20 Years And Choose Not To Live With Any More

Today I witnessed something I have always wanted to see. It was something many of you may not view with much excitement, but I sure was charged by the experience.

I drove along the coast to a small town, not far away from where I live, to grab a coffee to jumpstart some morning contemplation. Half way through the drive I was struck by one of mother-nature’s most beautiful creations. I couldn’t take my eyes off of this thing. People who passed by probably looked at me oddly, seeing me hunched over my steering wheel, totally mesmerized by this incredible display of vibrant colour. I’ve seen many rainbows in my years, but had never seen one so up close and personal. Its end seemed to submerge itself into the ocean, only a stones throw away from me. Instantly my internal struggles vanished, as the world around me was put on pause.

Unfortunately, it didn’t end in a pot of gold, but what it did reward me with was a minute or two of complete bliss and appreciation for life. I had been deeply plagued with selfishness the last few weeks, and was having difficulty shaking it. But, for those two minutes of connection with that colourful arch of freedom, my priorities became clear again and my thoughts began to shift back to substance and unity. I felt a certain reassurance that everything was going to be OK, and a blanket of warmth seem to cover me.

As soon as the bliss left me, a horrible sense of guilt spread through me as I made my way home. I couldn’t stop thinking about how many years of my life I missed out on other opportunities to connect while being caught up in self. Admittedly, I never really took the time to uncover my internal workings, and the time had finally arrived where my journey of self would expand exponentially. Today, I now have the chance, just like you, to live in freedom. I get to live without these chains that hampered my growth for years year. As I expose these struggles to you and the world them to you, my only hope is that it might help you suffer a little bit less in your own life and potential share in the release.

Dear self, 

I have uncovered cheat codes, that if  regularly incorporated into your life, will change it forever. There is no numerical priority to them, because life is variable and each will hold different degrees of weight depending on where you are. I promise you that the activation of each one of these will help you on your odyssey. Additionally, please share these hacks with everyone who comes across your path for the betterment of all.

Stop spending so much time with people who really don’t matter – One of the easiest ways to show love in life is to simply invest time with others. Presence is all you need to bring, not gifts, witty brilliance or humour. Stop pissing away your time with people who you know damn well will never reciprocate that kind love.

Not making your loved ones feel appreciated – One of the easiest ways you can make your loved ones feel cared for is to interrupt their day with an honest compliment. Or, even, just let them know how happy you are for them being in your life.

Living in fear of expression– Say what you need to say, and don’t skimp on expression. Your thoughts and perspective are more than valuable. Always acknowledge your inner voice.

Stop allowing self criticism to be your autopilot – This monster will always steer you off course. It will keep you distant from love, success, and freedom. Press the reset button and drop self criticism from your internal workings…..this step is crucial

Not listening and trusting your gut – The heart connects you to something far more powerful than you will ever be able to understand. Please acknowledge and trust that. Your mind may take a while to catch up with the choices your heart makes, but hindsight will eventually become foresight and it will all make sense.

Stop Letting other people’s opinion of you become your reality – Carve this phrase into your mind’s eye, “To Thine Own Self Be True”. Invest all you can into understanding yourself and your resilience will follow suit.

Spending too much time in past failures – In hindsight past mistakes seem so easily avoidable. Better solutions or reactions seem so obvious after the fact, but you are using today’s insight to try and rectify a problem from the past. Trust that you were, and are always doing the best can you can.

Not acknowledging your worthiness – Always remember you are no different than anyone else in this world. You have the same super powers as everyone else. There is nothing worse than feeling stuck due to the limiting beliefs you hold about yourself. No matter what….You Are Worth It! Fact!

Placing my needs aside – You will need to keep your motivation tank topped up at all times if you want to win. This investment of your time and energy daily will pay massive dividends. We all get one kick at the can, one crack of the whip. To help manifest your desires, try to surround yourself with peer-mentors that are seeking after the same goals. Synergy my friend, synergy!

Letting others take advantage of my kindness – Setting healthy boundaries with your time is huge. You can’t heal everyone – so stop trying! Be mindful of how some seem to suck the life out of you. You may be enabling this behaviour. Act as the gate keeper of your mind and energy. Be very selective of who you are allowing to influence your life.

Taking my support system for granted – We all have at least one or two people in our lives that we rely for strength and support. Make sure you let them know just how valuable they are on a regularly basis.

Not appreciating the small things at the end of the day – Review each day to find things you are grateful for. There is always something there, no matter how bad your day was. This simple perception check will bring you some peace of mind before your head hits the pillow

Activate Yourself Physically – Each of us is leased a physical form. We only get one body to operate in! If you regularly charge your physical form through exercise, it will not be without reward. Happy chemicals released during exercise will elevate your vibe. This is your body providing you with positive reinforcement for to get physical again and again…do this often.

Stop looking for other people to save you or bring you happiness – This is a draining quest that always leaves you empty handed. Happiness is an internal switch that can only be activated by you, and not by an external circumstance, person or thing unfortunately.

Not taking chances – We aren’t born with every skill needed to master life, but you will be afforded many opportunities to educate yourself as your horizons expand in life. Please review to steps 6 & 8, right now!

Keeping yourself in a box – Far too much time is spent lingering in limiting thoughts. This will always keep you small in life. Activate the tool of unity. Situate yourself with mentors or people striving for the same goal. This will charge you with the necessary spirit that will be needed to break through your limiting beliefs.

Being devoured by depressive thoughts – There is not one person who has walked this earth who doesn’t or hasn’t experience suffering. The only difference is, some people make the effort to strengthen their perception muscle. They make the choice to walk in faith. That choice is free of charge, and available for all of us.

Not taking responsibility for my life – It’s easy to sit and analyze everything that seems unjust in your life, but these thoughts only keep you from taking action. Courage and strength is what you need to pray for right now! Look within and finally admit that something needs to changed in your life. No, you are not a failure!

Wanting to impress people for the wrong reasons – As soon as you feel the need to start selling yourself to others you have already lost your value. The people that will be most pivotal in your life already see the value in you, and will highlight it your power and gifts along the way.

Investing time into drama – You are not responsible for everyone’s well being, so stop pretending like you have an answer for everyone. When you pull the plug of participation in drama-filled events, you no longer act as an enabler of chaos and dis–ease.

Not using the sharp tool of forgiveness – This angel on your shoulder needs to be fed regularly. It’s guaranteed that you will be let down in life. It’s also guaranteed that you will let down others. Cutting yourself free from ruminating thoughts of resentment is such a powerful gift. Forgiveness is that sharp edged cutting to you will use to free yourself.

Obsessive thinking or trying to force things – This is cancerous thinking and will bring nothing but torment and frustration into your life. Stop pretending like your have control over everything. This fallacious reasoning will only brew a destructive force. You are not weak when you let go.

Not visiting cities you wanted to when you had the chance – It is mandatory to explore this world, no matter your budget. Times is never refunded to you, and responsibilities only seem to grow with age. Make this a priority while you have the time.

Operating in arrogance – Call yourself down from any pedestal you find yourself perched atop of. You will soon realize that everyone around you is far more intelligent than you gave them credit for.

Constantly Judging Others – Comparison will never relieve you of insecurities. Compassion and kindness can bring you relief though. Each day look for something for something positive in the people you cross paths with. That something is for you to uncover, and not for the stranger to proclaim.

Sincerely, your future loving self!

Special Recognition

These are skills that need to be developed, and practiced. If you fail at any number of these points in your life today, not to worry! NO ONE has ever perfected these skills. Remember you are a human, not a deity. The great fact of the matter is, tomorrow you will be given another fresh opportunity to practice again.