Top 10 Reasons People Don’t Respond to Text Messages
Informative October 21, 2013 growthguided 299
There is nothing worse than sending a caring text message to a friend and not getting a response.
Thoughts that run through your mind!
~ Am I not important to you anymore?
~ Do you not respect me?
~ I know you have your phone with you every where you go!
~ What did I do to make you upset with me?
~ Are you playing mind games with me?
~ I don’t believe you when you say you just forgot to press ‘send’!
~ Oh, alright, you think you are better than me, do ya? Well, two can play this game.
~ Friends off, I hate you, my ego has been tarnished by this lack of timely respect. I now declare a text message war on against you!
~ I forgive you, but I never forget. Watch your back!
I think the sad part is that we are all guilty of this lapse in communication judgment, so why do we react so harshly when it happens to us? It becomes a personal attack to our worth when we don’t get a response within certain time limit.
Slowly we detach from traditional forms of communication, such as face to face dialogue, and we let our emoticons and exclamation points relay our thoughts and ideas. It no wonder we get lost in translation.
Here are a few insanely accurate reasons why we don’t respond to text messages. Yes, you are guilty of the same irrational thought process. Take the high road out of this childish banter and separate yourself from the reactionary ego-charged behavior.
TOP 10 REASONS PEOPLE DON’T RESPOND TO YOUR TEXTS
 The person really doesn’t like you.
 They are getting back at you for ignoring one of their text messages.
 They find your text message dialogue really boring and are on social media looking for something better to distract themselves with.
 They are playing mind games with you, full well knowing that by keeping you waiting for a response will cause you bitter frustration and they get a kick out of it.
 They are lazy and don’t respect you enough to respond to you.
 Very rarely, but some times, their battery dies. This is usually an excuse……go back to reason number 5.
 Some people work for a living, get off their back! They are WORKING… smarten up, the world doesn’t revolve around you.
 They just installed the new iOS and lost all their contacts (yes, even your precious contact info). They don’t recognize your number and are worried that your text might be from that person they gave their number to the night before.
 They are upset with you and decide to be passive aggressive with you instead of facing the problem head on up in a mature forward thinking fashion.
… and finally… did you actually check to see if you pressed send after you finished writing your emotionally charged message? This is the worst feeling ever and really makes you look at yourself as a super self-centered individual, realizing that you are the only one to blame for getting all upset over nothing.
Which one of these apply to you? More than you’d like to admit ?
Don’t want to live with regrets?
Well neither did I, and here are 25 of them I lived with for far too long.
DonOctober 22, 2013 #1 Author
I used to hate when people ignored my test messages! Almost everyone keeps there phone with them throughout the day. But the last year or two, I realize I don’t want to always be worried about my phone and who I have to get back to. I have definitely become the person that doesn’t text back. Ooops!
growthguidedOctober 23, 2013 #2 Author
I think it is most effective to set aside a certain time each day to respond to messages. If people really need to get in touch with you they can call!
DanielleJanuary 12, 2015 #3 Author
You are insanly intelligent and we all need to do this
kattyMarch 30, 2015 #4 Author
I used to text my cusin all the time but it started to get me in a bad reputation so i just ignord her so every time she texts me i say im busy.me and her where not texting for about four months but then she disides to call me but my phone was dead so the next day she texted me and my sister said not to be a mean cusin so i told her that my phone was dead is that mean?
SallyAugust 5, 2015 #5 Author
What do you exactly mean by bad reputation btw
Denise GreenOctober 4, 2016 #6 Author
I tried texting my friend Aaron Meyers and he hasn’t text me at all. I haven’t heard anything from since about a week ago! And then he forgave me for what happened but he didn’t call me to apologize about the way he talked to me.
RobApril 14, 2017 #7 Author
Yeah its mean
Jace LawlessMarch 10, 2019 #8 Author
My friend hasn’t texted me for months now I’m worried he might not have my phone number anymore
growthguidedMarch 11, 2019 #9 Author
a reminder text might be all that it takes to open up that relationship again.
DaveApril 19, 2017 #10 Author
If you cared so much about what other people think, to the point where you would stop talking to your cousin over it… yea, that’s beyond mean. That’s not something a good person should do and you need to work on that.
chrisAugust 9, 2015 #11 Author
I’m not buying it!
I have heard ALL the excuses before, especially my favorite: “I don’t carry my phone on me 24/7!!” Oh yes you do…everyone does. Or “I don’t check my phone all day long.” Really? The start, because like it or not, thats how we communicate now. My frustration is specifically geared toward business people – more specifically CONTRACTORS!! I get that you’re on a job site somewhere but as a paying customer who needs to coordinate with you when and what work you’ll be doing at my house, I don’t give two shits about the fact that you’re holding tools and you can’t text. PUT the tool down a couple times a day and catch up on your messages. Being busy is the lamest excuse in the world because I am as busy as anyone else…7 days a week and I still manage to check my phone and answer people. Answering clients 2 or 3 days later is absolutely unacceptable. But even regardless of this, on a casual level, friends or dating, its still bogus for people to get defensive because someone gets annoyed at their delayed or no responses. No one is so busy that 12 hours later they can’t take TEN seconds to send a quick text…that is if that person matters to you. Whats even more funny is people sometimes use the excuse “I’m not a texter, I’d rather you call me.” Huh???? Calling and being stuck on the phone is way more work than texting. If you find it so daunting to send a sentence or two – even if it says “hey, got your text, I’m super busy…I’ll get back to you soon OK? :)”…how can you find time to talk on the phone???
Anyway, I don’t buy all these bogus excuses. I think its just another outlet in our society for people to be inconsiderate. If I can do it, everyone can do it.
GGAugust 28, 2015 #12 Author
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SallyMarch 15, 2017 #15 Author
I totally agree with you. It is one of the main ways that people communicate these days. That’s just reality. How often did you not answer you landline back in the day??? And when we finally got answering machines, how often did you ignore the message? It’s a matter of consideration/manners. You’re either brought up to respect other human beings, or you’re brought up to be completely self-centered and inconsiderate of others’ feelings.
Janine LilfordFebruary 5, 2021 #16 Author
My friend didn’t reply to me as she says is having a phone free day. Trouble is when she doesn’t tell anyone that until their message is left unopened. And then next day you get told she is having a phone free day .She’s now saying this is normal and lots do it .she doesn’t look at her phone all day and didn’t see my text .as not seen it and answered eventually what’s the problem ? and am I playing mind games ?
Janine LilfordFebruary 5, 2021 #17 Author
My friend. has quite a few times where you realise she’s not answering you and something’s wrong. then maybe the next day after being concerned you get a reply saying on sorry I had a phone free day . Charming isn’t it. we text quite a lot during days I read this as basically I want a break . Not very flattering so thought maybe just not bother .Not something I would ever do rude as well but now she’s saying that she doesn’t look at her phone like I do .And wasn’t aware of my text or it needing a reply. And it’s quite normal nowadays to have phone free days . Lots do it. ! Trouble with that idea is that she tells no-one when those days are until you became stressed not getting replied to then says hi I had a phone free day. Maddening. .I said it’s not normal where I live nor anyone i know does it thankfully. . Needless to say that’s the finish.
jizSeptember 1, 2015 #18 Author
agree… cause lots of misunderstanding and rude because people cannot read ‘silence’.
MarkNovember 3, 2015 #19 Author
Spot on, Chris, I couldn’t agree more!
I always enjoy doing somewhat of a personal test when I believe someone is ignoring me…
I’ll first text them again, asking them for a very small nonexistent favor – a ride to the bank or the store.
Of course, they don’t respond, so then I send them a text much more so in their favor. Perhaps I want to give or share something with them that they thoroughly enjoy in their lives. You’d be surprised at how they are suddenly available.
SaraMarch 26, 2017 #20 Author
So very true. They’ll respond if it’s in their best interest. Tired of self-centered asses. They’re not real friends. I am out of friends, lol.
TammiApril 4, 2017 #21 Author
I agree, They want you to stay in touch and when you do stay in touch they ignore every text message you send to them. I tried to test someone out by sharing something positive about myself and he still ignored my message and not replied. Then the next day he sends me a bible scripture and never answered what I told him.
growthguidedApril 8, 2017 #22 Author
Let’s assume the scripture passage wasn’t “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.”
GwenNovember 30, 2015 #23 Author
I’m buzzed, bored and my girlfriend sent me this link because it’s a running joke between alllll of us. . “I read your text and mentally responded”, or the even more frustrating, the sudden halt in the previous flow of conversation. As if you read my text message, swiftly responded, dropped your phone and then ran away. You absolutely know what and why you’re doing. It is what it is but its amateur hour if you feel the need to defend yourself to the point of taking the time to weave a (in your mind), a creatively deceptive foolproof lie… “Girl, my phone has been actin crazy all day”. Ain’t gonna lie: I take full advantage of the fact I have T-nobile; but I do it because I really didn’t feel like responding at the time. The intent was there but the energy lacked and won. When it’s your best friends and all you’ll do is razz each other about it that to me isn’t even a blip on my radar. My friends know I hate when I send a long (I mean take up a screen text) and they respond “daammnn, that’s crazy”. But I know that’s them not ready for consistent dialogue. But if you’re not in the “friend zone”; you better be earning your entrance fee or you will be an assumed snob, faker, hater, alcoholic or just a general weirdo who doesn’t understand you have to establish a foundation through communication… which by the way has ended two of my friendships and one awkward relationship. So… Damn…
Texting has way too much power.. But yeah. the article… The people that make the most, and most effective excuses? Yeah, they become lawyers. And why not?
StephAugust 13, 2016 #24 Author
Ha ha! I love this response!
TomDecember 1, 2015 #25 Author
Perfect. Yes. The excuses are just that–excuses. People don’t return texts because they don’t HAVE to, and they don’t WANT to. But wait ’til they need something. The same people who don’t return your texts will text you multiple times in a few minutes with the frustrated/impatient, “HELLO!” or, “Why aren’t you getting back to me?!!” They’re inconsiderate. They want you to return their texts instantly when they need something, but they also want to be free to ignore your texts otherwise.
ZoeyMay 3, 2016 #26 Author
My one friend from HS has been doing this ignoring thing. She did it to all her friends in college I remember reading a wall post she got of her friend asking if she gave her the right number because she tried contacting her over break and never heard back. Of course my friend writes back with right number but didn’t get your texts. I think she did tho but just didn’t wanna say. Sometimes she will ignore my texts for weeks and months and sometimes she just never responds. We have a mutual friend and she has complained to me of the same thing happening. I just don’t understand why my friend ignores her friends. She works yes. 7am-5pm sometimes she will text me for advice when she has been ignoring me for weeks and I’m just like do you only text me when you need something from me? But other times she will text me long texts making excuses why she hasn’t texted in so long. I’ve tried calling her to see if I can get a hold of her that way but it’s the same thing. I’ve also tried talking through text to why she ignores me and our other friends she ignores those questions I’ve even tried asking the question in person and she just its annoyed and changes the subject. Sometimes she will text out of the blue ask how I’m doing. Does anyone’s else friends ignore them for weeks or months or just never respond? But as well to there other friends.
TamaNovember 4, 2016 #27 Author
Self absorbed people carry on like that
AvaFebruary 19, 2017 #28 Author
Yes! I have a friend who does that. It is hurtful and she does it to others as well. Her excuses are she left her phone in the car, battery died, busy, sick, etc. We have two Mutual friends and I found out they get the same treatment. But I notice when I’m with her, I see her texting often. It makes you wonder doesn’t it? Facebook was easier to get through to her but only if I sent message to inbox. She doesn’t respond on the wall. It made me wonder if she didn’t want others to know she communicates with me, lol. She seems like she is always needing approval and idolizes others too much. Maybe she is jealous too. I love her dearly but her behavior has definitely broken down the relationship quite a bit. The phone calls more times than not always ended with a disconnect, lost signal, is the excuse I will get, because she doesn’t have good reception in her home or her battery died. I would immediately send a text and voicemail that we lost connection let’s talk soon. But there would never be a response to that unless I again question the disconnect at another time. I really can’t figure her out and no one else can either. I have even wondered if she just wants everyone to think she is so busy and important that she doesn’t have time for small talk. The bottom line is…. if you don’t water the plant… the plant eventually dies.
JennaMay 16, 2016 #29 Author
Yep they don’t respond because THEY don’t want to! Well there is a lot of crap ‘ I don’t want to do, too!’ yet I do it anyway. My sister is in a group text about a new baby coming. Zero response for 2 MONTHES. Like someone else said, she sure had everyone hopping and skipping when there were a few baby’s coming in her family.
SarahJanuary 8, 2016 #30 Author
Thank you for this comment:-) , I can never ignore someone’s msg especially if I care for them .
PinkyNovember 11, 2016 #31 Author
exactly my thoughts. it shouldn’t take a day, two days, or even no response. funny is that when they text you they expect the reply.
MurrmiteFebruary 12, 2016 #32 Author
I don’t agree. I work in an environment where phones are not permitted for safety. I also work 12 hour shifts. Be considerate, we don’t all live on our phones.
I would also rather hear from you than receive a text. It is much more respectful.
ChrisMarch 21, 2016 #33 Author
Most of us are reasonable enough to know that people work long hours and may not get back to you the same day. What I’m referring to mainly are people who do this ALL the time, on their days of, at work, whenever. When people use all the excuses listed above, what they’re essentially saying is “yes, I know people are probably trying to get a hold of me but I don’t give a duck and frankly I don’t want to be bothered with it.” There’s a difference between a considerate, reliable person who fails to respond once in a while (which is unlike them so naturally you can assume there’s a good reason why) and someone who is chronic with leaving you hanging, forces you to track them down and if you DARE utter a word of disappointment at their lack of consideration they go in the attack defense! Actually I believe in many cases, the people who do this tend to be narcissists. I’m better than everyone else and if I feel like answering I will, if not they need to deal with it. RUDE!!
DHApril 1, 2016 #34 Author
In my case, I work long hours and can’t have my personal phone on me while I am in work. Anyone that does question that is bang out of order for doing so, as soon as I get a message I will reply, or if busy I say I will reply asap and why. In this day and age, it is sad that can be misunderstood. There are quite a lot of people who cannot have their personal phones on them at work.
I had a situation with a lady I’m dating the other day, where she got back from holiday and sent me a message on Facebook. Now, I live in the countryside, where mobile signal is limited and mobile internet doesn’t load up anything. I was out on the farm I live on all day making the most of good weather, and where I received this message at 9 in the morning, it wasn’t until 6pm or there abouts where I received the facebook message. I replied and received no answer to my message and it is now two days later. And there lies the problem, dating a lady I like has probably ended because I didn’t reply to a facebook message until hours later. We all need to stop playing games, stop overthinking. Some people do not reply on purpose, for example with the 3 day rule and rubbish like that where yeah definitely and quite frankly, that’s at a maturity level of a teenager, for those of us that grew up after our school years, wouldn’t do that. A real person has the maturity to carry on conversation, message back when they can etc etc. We live in a dumbed down world and this is the fall out from people growing backwards. Anyone who comes back with the usual predictable defensive comments like ‘lighten up’ etc probably fell into that immature, frustrated pattern themselves.
Potterfan 29March 20, 2016 #35 Author
I totally agree with you!
JessicaApril 27, 2016 #36 Author
I do NOT carry my phone everywhere. That doesn’t mean most people do, but not everyone does.
JackJuly 7, 2016 #37 Author
I totally agree
SeiphiiJuly 12, 2016 #38 Author
to be fair, I would rather someone call me than text me. it’s not a matter of time so much as the fact that i know that I’m a very different person over text, and not in a good way. this may not apply to most but i’m not the only person with mental disorders that affect social ability (but in regards to professionals not responding is completely unacceptable. if they can’t do it, they shouldn’t take that job)
Sheila MaeJuly 19, 2016 #39 Author
I totally agree!! My brother answers my texts about 1 time out of 20 and my texts are like three words, “You doing ok?”. He can’t even be bothered to respond, “ok.”. He says he loves me but I can’t be the one to keep this relationship alive. For it to survive, he will have to carry his end or it dies.
Frankly, texting can be used by some people as a
power trip to keep the upper hand in a relationship, to convey that you are very low on a person’s list of priorities and then lie about why they didn’t respond (which is a form of mental cruelty and keps the person confused.
I once told my brother once (he is my only sibling). that not taking 3 seconds to respond to a text is just a newer of letting people know that you really don’t matter too much to them and that they really, in truth, don’t care much about you or care if they do not show you the most basic respect.
I have started to drop people who act like this – who needs it!! They won’t change.
ChrisJuly 22, 2016 #40 Author
Besides the 2-3 day call back for business related items, I disagree with most of your post. I am not a phone person and texting takes longer than calls. Especially these days when most people have a bluetooth of some sort. I can here texts through my bluetooth, but cannot respond. If I am busy say… just driving (illegal to txt and drive btw) your txt can wait until I am finished. But if you call, I can press the button on my headset and converse. If you need to have an important conversation, call or talk in person.
Larry ellis.July 29, 2016 #41 Author
Omg you are so right on.God bless you i thought i was the onlyone with the. vompliant thank you so much .I have decided if so called friends vant take the to invest the same enrgy in me that i invest in them i have. Revaluated the friendship and demoted them to associates..
KJAugust 11, 2016 #42 Author
No, I honestly can’t stand texting, so I do not carry my phone with me everywhere, and I never check it. Although I do tell everyone upfront, “I hate texting, so don’t bother.”
BayNovember 12, 2016 #43 Author
Jim WilliamsNovember 18, 2016 #44 Author
It’s actually a job site safety hazard. He would have to stop, put all his stuff away in case it gets stolen, and then walk down a building, likely without Elevators, avoiding trios, slips, and falls, akd avoid hurting other Contractors… then walk to a safe area, catch his breath and make the call. There’s a large increase in percentage that they will die, or get hurt by doing what you are requesting. Phones shouldn’t be allowed on jobsites.
NaidnFebruary 17, 2017 #45 Author
I agree with all of this. I think it’s just rude as f*ck.
FrouberMarch 9, 2017 #46 Author
Totally man. People are so inconsiderate and lazy. A bold, brave person, should totally call them out on it. If they have lame excuses or don’t reply then axe them as a friend. Find a better one that responds, remove the toxicity. Texting only takes a short amount of time, its not a phone call. If someone can’t text you back, they’re being a bad friend, either they shape up or eliminate them accordingly. Make sure they know why you’re getting rid of them, so they know de facto, is because they were being and inconsiderate, selfish, self-centered douche.
Kathleen HartungMay 25, 2017 #47 Author
Thank you, Chris, for saying everything I’ve been thinking about this topic! You’really brilliant. There ARE no excuses. And another annoying thing is people who have had smartphones for years still don’t know how to organize the apps. I have texts, fb messages, email, and voice mail all clustered together on my home page so I can see at a glance what’s going on. Drives me nuts when close friends say, ” Huh. I never saw your text”. Good grief.
MaxJune 13, 2017 #48 Author
I agree with you!
janeNovember 24, 2017 #49 Author
I don’t have kids, and I have noticed that women friends of mine with kids, some of them keep their phones IN THEIR HAND, or at least in their pocket every waking hour. I don’t. Mine sits on the bureau sometimes all day, some times I forget to turn on the wi-fi, and I can’t get calls without it. sometimes i leave the phone in the car from the afternoon ktil the next morning around 10. I wish it was the old days and people would just use the freakin landline. But they don’t. So I miss aloooot of texts, but not on purpose. But then I feel like people take forever to get me back. ugh.
i know they are glued to their phone because for some reason they do. I mostly use my cellphone just for car emergencies but for other people itks their life. OK
MarleneDecember 26, 2017 #50 Author
I totally agree with you.
CandyJanuary 10, 2018 #51 Author
I know right Donald Trump is busy and still finds time to tweet I know my best friend is home and is playing on her iPad it’s called Locate Device ? and She makes up excuses like on my mum says only 2 hours well guess what last month we were FaceTiming for 2 hours and before that she was already on her iPad it just frustrates me sooo much when she sends a message I reply straight away or at least in and hour and she doesn’t. Its starting to make me feel unimportant.
jessicaMarch 14, 2016 #52 Author
I know how you feel. My best friend Andrew has not texted me back since yesterday! And the last time we texted was on Friday. I sent him a whole bunch of messages to see if he responded and he still hasnt responded so i think that irritated him. Oh well. It´s okay if he doesń´t respond
GlennaMarch 30, 2016 #53 Author
If I send a text and they do not respond in 24 hours … I send another one that says “Have you heard the news ?” Every time I get an immediate response
GuestJune 29, 2016 #54 Author
It still doesn’t suggest an explanation for people who would text you first and then not text back when you reply, but yet they’d still be online.
Sheila MarJuly 19, 2016 #55 Author
.I am new. I posted a response to someone and I can’t find it on this thread. I put in my name and email like it required. Can anyone explain this? Thanks
Mario Prince-CharmingFebruary 22, 2014 #56 Author
I think it depends on how often it happens. If the same person does this to you almost every time you text them, thus 6,8,9, and 10 aren’t reasonable excuses.As far as 7 goes, what job out there does not allow you access to your phone?. You may not be able to reply as soon as you get the text(due to the fact that you don’t know you have one) but you can easily reply no later than 1.5 hrs later.
growthguidedJune 16, 2014 #57 Author
Valid point Mario!
GuestSeptember 28, 2014 #58 Author
There are some jobs that don’t allow cellular phones in the office due to operational security reasons. One such job is that of an employee working with classified information in a SCIF.
jadeOctober 16, 2014 #59 Author
It’s ridiculous to expect a grown man or woman at work to drop what they’re doing to indulge your insecurities. Can you imagine an insecure spouse constantly pinging their mate (the surgeon) while it’s your grandmother on the operating table?
If you want me to pick up a bag of milk, text away but if we need to have “the talk” or something, pick up the phone (after work) and we’ll talk or better yet , let’s meet up.
Texting can be useful sometimes but it is also extremely antisocial at other times. It’s especially bad when a guy hits your grandmother with his car because his wife relentlessly texts him all day long and he’s feeling the pressure to respond. I got hit by a guy once because texting was more important than my life apparently.
That’s what it looks like from the other side….
growthguidedOctober 17, 2014 #60 Author
It is an extremely antisocial practice! Very much a paradox ;(
TakhSeptember 27, 2017 #61 Author
I don’t believe texting is antisocial. I believe that it is a medium like any other. Some people prefer texts, some phones, some email, some social media, some IM, some Skype, some What’s App, etc., etc. It’s not the medium, it’s the person. People can be social or anti- regardless of the medium, Regardless.
DanielNovember 19, 2014 #62 Author
SabAugust 24, 2015 #63 Author
I’ve been waiting for my friend to text me back she said at 6 pm yesterday I’ll text you back but yet I see her on Instagram
StacyNovember 25, 2015 #64 Author
OmG The same and shes always like sorry I didn’t see your messages. Bitch you put a screenshot on IG and they were there for everyone to see!
ChrisMarch 21, 2016 #65 Author
You’re illustrating an extreme case. And judging by your attitude you sound like one of the people who does this. We aren’t talking about people who text you for every little thing or expect something like “pick up a loaf of bread” important enough to warrant an immediate response. Someone married to a surgeon would know this, get real. It’s people who rarely seem to answer messages when they are NO more busy than any of us. We’re all busy and taking the time to send a quick text, even if it says “super busy, text u later” is better than blowing people off. If you find it that difficult to employ a little multitasking then maybe you’re challenged? Expecting the same courtesy you give others is NOT being insecure.
JohnApril 5, 2016 #66 Author
gretchMay 22, 2015 #67 Author
I often forget to hit send. I am usually in the middle of a text when some calls or walks into my office. I then focus on the live person and the text is out of my head. Later I check the phone and notice the text is saved as draft…then send it.
DewbertJune 2, 2015 #68 Author
What job out there does not allow you access to your phone??? How old are you? You certainly weren’t born before the era of cell phones. Cell phones are used mainly for personal texting, rather than working. Be professional. If there is an emergency, someone important in your life should know your work phone number and should know to only contact you during work hours if there is an emergency. Get back to work!
AMHMarch 24, 2017 #69 Author
NatJune 8, 2015 #70 Author
I used to have the same thinking that they might reply by evening or before they goes to bed. but unfortunately they don’t have the intention to reply at all!!! and i really hate these type of people. what the f is wrong with them? can’t even reply a ok?
DeniseAugust 16, 2015 #71 Author
That’s the red flag right there, when you’ve given their silence a pass because of their schedule, then when you know they are free they don’t respond. I find if someone really wants to talk to you practically nothing stands in the way. I’ve had to yell at guys to put the phone down whole driving or wasting the day at work texting me. When they want you, they are never too busy.
ChrisMarch 21, 2016 #72 Author
You summed it up right here: “if someone really wants to talk to you practically nothing stands in their way” PERIOD
BobOctober 2, 2015 #73 Author
My job doesn’t…
DerekJune 16, 2014 #74 Author
I think relatively, people have various reasons, or reasons at that moment, so these websites and article won’t give us a perspective, because naturally we lack perspective of what happens thus we are here….so we don’t find out online. AND DO NOT ask the person or even nicely bring it up…it will only happen more. My advice: change your contact strategy, and don’t call it a strategy either lol. Don’t hang yourself up over it. If they are not a texter (usually they’re in a committed relationship and you’re trying to be friends, they’re working, or have kids) then when you believe they have a free moment after a few days (few is 3 not 2) call them and ask them to hangout or whatever you want from them. Be casual and happy. If that doesn’t work then maybe they don’t want a relationship/friendship with you. BUT it isn’t always because they don’t care or don’t like you. Sometimes people don’t want to get hurt and like being private people. People back off too after initially getting close BECAUSE they feel like they have revealed too much and they build up a strong wall. Breaking it takes time. If it’s social media….SCREW the social media. Y’all should not have any of that anyway, it just helps us being okay with being alone. If you see them in person sometime in the week, be normal. I make sure 95% of the time to get back to all emails, calls, and text messages ESPECIALLY if it is not a close friend or relative. People I already have a strong relationship, sometimes I don’t know how to respond or don’t want to, or busy and never get back. That is wrong, but I will work on that…and that’s to those who constantly talk to me. Be mentally well guys, and don’t freak out. You are worth more than that and are no less worthy of love whether a friend or more because someone has THEIR own issues.
growthguidedJune 16, 2014 #75 Author
Thank you for your in-depth comment Derek. Looking forward to more of your perspective on future articles! Have a great week
markymarksurreyApril 24, 2015 #76 Author
Yes what a great reply and very helpful. much better than the selfish drivel from others. you gave a very enlightened view.Sometimes when you text someone and they dont reply over the next few days you wonder what the hell is going on especially if they dont give u a reason. thanks Derek your great responce responce
ChrisMarch 21, 2016 #77 Author
Nah. What you said is lame. You know you suck at getting back to friends and family but you’ll work on it??? And at the same time you say no one should bother being offended? When you suggest people don’t bring it up but act perfectly friendly to people who never respond, guess what, that’s called ENABLING. If you want people in your life who can’t pull a little common consideration out of their a$$ then you go right ahead. I personally deserve much better.
KelvinMarch 22, 2016 #78 Author
I totally agree with you Chris, Derek sounds like your typical selfish male(guys are worse at communication usually).. It’s all about him and if he can be bothered making an effort. Wants his cake and to eat it too. Most of this comes down to a lack of respect, care and our consumer society. This includes treating friends as a ‘consumer’ product. Use when you need them and when you don’t, then just don’t bother getting back as it’s too much hassle. They don’t get back to you because they are selfish and have ‘better’ things to do. Sometimes it’s for genuine reasons, but we are all intelligent enough and hopefully mentally stable enough to know that people need reasonable space and allowances in life eg a mate just had a kid, or changed jobs etc . However, we all know that’s NOT what we are talking about here.
FrouberMarch 9, 2017 #79 Author
Agreed Chris, people with their selfish, douche-bay excuses for why they can’t spend 15 seconds of time to respond to something? And phone calling is much, much more energy than a text. If a person can’t respond to a text, why the #$@% would you think that person responds to a phone call? People are just very selfish and they hide behind various excuses to not admit that they were 1. not raised correctly, 2. are incredibly self-centered and refused to admit this, 3. both.
Liza JaneJune 28, 2017 #80 Author
Frouber head on. Narcissistic personality disorder. People are rude. Just push a button and send them to the stratosphere. If they call you on it, and in all honesty – this could be true, they are bots.
SarahJuly 19, 2014 #81 Author
All of these reasons are lame. Sometimes people are just not in the mood to text or they are trying to go off the radar to enter their mind palace… or something. Anyway, it’s not about you. Don’t worry. If you are someone they want to speak to, they will get to you. Sometimes, you need to give a little space and not be a creeper by stressing out on the issue.
RobinFebruary 9, 2015 #82 Author
Thanks Sarah, I was beginning to think that there was something I had done to deserve the no text back punishment. It’s good to hear you say that it’s not about me, on the other hand how do you know? Maybe she’s not in the mood, maybe she’s afraid of getting into something she can’t get out of and maybe she just doesn’t care. Maybe she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. I’m going with she’s “off radar”. Better odds. I’m calling her first thing tomorrow!
georgMarch 26, 2015 #83 Author
You’re in denial, Robin. Your “friend” isn’t returning your texts because she is a fake friend.
MememememeJuly 29, 2014 #84 Author
For me texting is like any conversation and deserves the same respect. Can you imagine stopping to talk to an old friend in the street and mid conversation they just turn around and walk away??? IT’s just plain rude!! If someone cant respond at that moment or wants time to think or whatever then a simple. ‘I’ll get back to you later!’ will suffice! I do appreciate not everyone is glued to their phones 24/7 and nor should they be but a 24 hour window is sufficient in which to respond.
growthguidedJuly 30, 2014 #85 Author
I think that sounds more than fair. I simple courtesy. Have a great week. Thank you for stopping by 🙂
DolphinJuly 6, 2015 #86 Author
When you say “I will get back to you” you must. “I will get back to you” just helps you buy time and is not a reply by itself.
texting is for stupid peopleDecember 27, 2016 #87 Author
no, texting isn’t like having a conversation. not in the least. texting is like Facebook and other social media. it’s about as anti human as get out. texting is a way of avoiding human conversation. since a predominant amount of people appear to have some sort of unrecognized mental health diagnosis, texting appears to be part of the addiction and one of the many symptoms. in the new dsm v revel in the ocd anxiety sections. texting is a problem, and the people who expect sane people to codependent their illness should really just try to not text for one day. then see what being an addict is.
janeNovember 24, 2017 #88 Author
i agree with you. i only like landline calls. i don’t like using text and email for communication because it feels so cold. i like old fashioned letters and landline calls or at least cell calls with a msg. I think some people hesitate to cell call because they don’t want a person to pick up if they are driving.
AngieJuly 30, 2014 #89 Author
I think nobody has the obligation to text back, even you. When im a work, im at work i leave my phone in my purse. And when i finish work i want a me time ,a desconection.
After that if im not going to see you later that day i’ll tx you back or call you.
And the same apply when im on the gym, my phone on my backpack.
I like to socialize with ppl that i see face to face, if you miss me you know where to find me.
Don’t feel like the person doesn’t like you or it’s ignoring you, maybe they have so manny shit going on and they might be needing the time to find a solution for their on situations. Be independent, stop expecting!
growthguidedJuly 30, 2014 #90 Author
Great point Angie!
markymarksurreyApril 24, 2015 #91 Author
Angie, im so glad im not your “friend” thats if you have any?. you seem to believe that people are around for your own pleasure to correspond with when you can be bothered or not at the gym etc. my advice is try and be nicer to peopel.
TextiestRepliesNovember 16, 2015 #92 Author
Wtf is wrong with all of you egomaniacs? Jesus it’s a text message. Being available to whoever whenever 24/7 is unrealistic and laborious. None of my favorite “life moments” have ever ever ever including texting or my cell phone. I can’t really believe what I am reading; I don’t respond to texts regularly. If it’s super important call or email or anything but text. What annoys me the most is the expectation of a reply. What about you makes you more important than the person who you texted? Do you drop everything and reply to whatever comes in over text? What if you are in different time zones ? Point is you’re not special and neither am I or anyone else. Shit comes up and that’s life.
PFebruary 18, 2016 #93 Author
In day to day life if someone makes clear they don’t like texts then you shouldn’t text them. If the person is texting you because they feel intimidated to do anything otherwise, then maybe you should try to be more empathetic?
GuitarMatt73June 16, 2015 #94 Author
I totally agree. I have disowned people if they have a habit of not returning texts. At least a “I’ll get get back to you later” or an “okay” will suffice. Being call screened or not having one’s texts returns is like going to someone’s has with 3 cars in front of it, making it obvious that they are home but ignoring the door bell.
If someone needs that much friggin space then I don’t have any room for such an obnoxious person to be in my life. One time my texts were being ignored. I just spontaneously texted “Don’t let the door hit your a$$ on the way out. Good riddance.”
growthguidedJune 17, 2015 #95 Author
Matt I think you summarized it best with, “I don’t have any room for such an obnoxious person to be in my life”
Set that boundary my friend!
DiDi_BeastFebruary 17, 2017 #96 Author
Nice comeback. I am the exact same way. Good riddance!
Liza JaneJune 28, 2017 #97 Author
GuitarMatt73 – You got it! I don’t have any time to feel pissed off lol. My job is too demanding and being pissed off Is not healthy for you. So send them with a button to the moon (Alice) !!! I ended a 7 year friendship with a person who would disappear for months. We would have a text week and have so many laughs. Then, again. Disappears. I blocked her. I just got sick of it and told her that I had enough. That person found another phone number to send me 11 psycho messages. “How could you even FATHOM saying to a friend that I did not get back to them in 3 days!!!!!!!” My answer, “I got a story on your dream with an editor (I work the press very well) and the editorial committee has deadlines. They don’t wait for babies who cry out sick and need gatorade as an excuse.. I live in pain 24/7.
“I will drop the story.”
I had the last words.
NeuromancerAugust 18, 2015 #98 Author
See, this isn’t a good enough excuse, this is lame. Someone, who is important enough that you gave them your phone number, and who took the time to message you, isn’t important enough for you to reply. Perhaps they are not as important to you as they think they are?
What if the tables were turned, and you never got a reply? Would you find that exceptable?
I understand my friends are working and have families. That’s why I don’t call them, I text them. I would expect a reply from them at lunch, or when they finish work, or late at night when they’ve sat down after putting the kids to bed and they’ve had their dinner.
Max Dell-ThibodeauAugust 6, 2014 #99 Author
I am a busy type “A” person. I only pick up my phone when I am bored and have nothing to do, which many people see as a bad habit. I like every one of my contacts even if they complain hat I missed their calls. #’s 6 and 10 are the only reasons why I don’t respond because they include that it’s a forgetfulness habit. Right now, I am really bored and my mom yelled at me earlier about not responding to her text on time. I have stuff to do like multiple HW assignments, cross country running, internship, seeing my girlfriend who I only see once a week for 1-2 hours, cleaning up the house (if I think of it). Maybe I should tell people my daily plans on Facebook. That could work. That way they know when I am free.
Max Dell-ThibodeauAugust 6, 2014 #100 Author
One more thing. I don’t mean to disrespect any of my friends who are reading this.
growthguidedAugust 6, 2014 #101 Author
Im sure they will understand. Have a great week and thanks for stopping by (:
growthguidedAugust 6, 2014 #102 Author
Sounds like you are a great communicator Max. Keep up the great work!
jasonAugust 12, 2014 #103 Author
Hi I have lots of friends, but lose some for this exact reason. It’s not that I don’t care etc mentioned above. It’s that I (and believe there’s many others too) only use my phone to make quick calls during the day. And only check messages on a slow night or morning.
I find it rude to friends when i(or people around) are continuously checking phones. It says your not caring about people around. Also I would’ve never made some awesome friendships if I was looking down.
I’ve tried both routes and living not attached to cell is more exciting. Plus there’s people how play investment psychology games that are not obvious through text.
I recommend anyone to try avoiding text during day (unless meeting with someone specifically)
growthguidedAugust 12, 2014 #104 Author
That is a great idea Jason. Allocate time to connect with your peer group so it doesn’t disrupt other aspects of your day!
Thank you for your comment and stopping by!
Thomas KasperekAugust 20, 2014 #105 Author
Top 10 on Why People Will Be Answering Their Text Messages
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5. Activists will send and answer text messages to their home office and send live photos or video of events such as crimes, assaults, demonstrations to enhance community safety.
6. Field technicians will answer their texts when the company expert sends the fix to his problem.
7. You will be answering a text from a business that has a text-enabled landline to book a pedicure, schedule a haircut, reschedule a dental appointment, order a meal, make a reservation.
8. You will be answering texts the customer service agent who is fixing your cable-modem sends you because you are missing an important sporting event you have paid a lot of money for.
9. You will be answering texts after you report a discrimination event to your company, because your company has made it clear that any employee can text into a help line that accepts text evidence.
10. You will now be answering more texts as a result of reading these 10 reasons because you never know what new capability will be next on the SMS messaging platform.
growthguidedAugust 21, 2014 #106 Author
Very creative (: Thank you. I liked number 4
MeredithSeptember 14, 2014 #108 Author
Great article, and well written. I consider communication one of the basic foundations for any type of relationship, whether that be work related, family, friends, etc. The lack of communication and heavy reliance on text these days leaves for a disconnected society. Texts do not imply tone, and a lack of response in my opinion can be a bit rude if it occurs often by your recipient. We live in a society with immediacy and instant communication and everyone is “busy.” Between work and being a single mom, my schedule involves a lot of “on-the-go” between assuring my son is to school on time and I am on time to work, racing to activities, over seeing my son’s actives, homework and daily schedule. I still make it a priority to respond to text, messages, phone calls and e-mails in a timely manner. I have family members that often don’t reply to a simple question I might ask in a text, etc. I do find it bewildering, and it’s nothing worth addressing. It’s odd that these are the types that constantly have their phone connected to them. I just don’t find much sense in communicating regularly with someone that puts such little effort into their relationship. Life is simply too short.
growthguidedSeptember 15, 2014 #109 Author
I completely agree with your Meredith. You bring forth some very valid points.
Thank you for stopping by
KarafakisDecember 10, 2014 #110 Author
I think it’s arrogance. Simply the individuals sits there and ask themselves do I really wanna reply etc. Than I am just thinking do I really wanna give this person a reason to feed their ego? No! One more thing is apparent that is not forgetting that human communication and keeping friendships is an art! It’s not something anyone is capable of. I had a mate, I was there for him a lot in thick and thin, to a point my ex broke up with me. Now, this person declines my calls doesn’t respond to my messages while I see him online on what’sapp. This shows that this society have literally taken the basic values away. However, I strongly believe that to have success in life you have to be good at communicating with friends, and people . Respecting people is the key. However the more I get to know people like that, my love to animals increases at least you know where you have the animals.
growthguidedDecember 10, 2014 #111 Author
We too believe that there is an art to relationship. That is a great point!
VickiMarch 3, 2015 #112 Author
Meredith, I am in total agreement with you and yours is the most intelligent and well thought out reply on this entire post.
That said, people with limited face-to-face interpersonal skills tend to have their phones constantly near by and check them often and yet, they don’t reply timely, or if they do, the texts are careless and monosyllabic. It was pointed out on another blog that these folks just don’t value you very much.
Regrettably, I have had to draw this conclusion myself and as hurtful as it is I honestly don’t know what else to think.
texting is for stupid peopleDecember 27, 2016 #113 Author
over the last decades my relationships did not contain one text message. grown up single parent grad school full time worker community service and so forth. people think they are SO IMPORTANT and BUSY that they can only afford a TEXT message. Hate to tell you, that’s not a relationship.
Clemmie T. ErnspikerSeptember 20, 2014 #114 Author
I’m gone to convey my little brother, that he should also go to see this blog on regular basis to get updated from most recent information.
growthguidedSeptember 21, 2014 #115 Author
Thank you Clemmie! I would appreciate that.
شركات نقل الاثاث في الكويتSeptember 28, 2014 #116 Author
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growthguidedSeptember 29, 2014 #117 Author
Thank you very much. Look forward to more comments from you soon!
Psych2goOctober 6, 2014 #118 Author
They don’t know what to say back, because texting is simply not enough.
growthguidedOctober 6, 2014 #119 Author
It is one of the lowest forms of communications that has become common place.
GabrielOctober 6, 2014 #120 Author
These people see you as microscopic get a good job dress good better car nice house and see if they still ignore you that’s how you know they are only superficial
growthguidedOctober 6, 2014 #121 Author
Have you noticed that change in your own life? Maybe you could share an example with our community Gabriel. Thank you
A.B.November 17, 2014 #122 Author
Heck, I can give u an example. How about you message a particular person and they ignore almost alllll of ur messages… Then, you make it big in the world, like getting a lucrative record deal and you become pretty famous practically overnight…then all of a sudden it just so happens they want to start responding to your messages and gives some lame excuse as to why they weren’t responding when they thought you were a “nobody” to begin with. How’s THAT for an example? Does that smell like superficial to you?
growthguidedNovember 18, 2014 #123 Author
I think that is a great example. On the bright side, you are given the great perspective of how the really valued your friendship. One door closing, leaving room for more wonderful people to come in and share with you on your new successful journey.
binduOctober 17, 2014 #124 Author
I also face such problem.I am trying to covience myself not to take it heart.But i always replied to them when they pinged me.I try myself to be there for them when they needed me,But no one responeded me,except only one friend.He was there for me always.what is the problem with me.what should i change with me.
growthguidedOctober 17, 2014 #125 Author
Don’t take it to heart my friend. Just be aware and detach! Thank you for stopping in Bindu
Liza JaneJune 28, 2017 #126 Author
@growthguided – YES! DETACH! Badda BING Badda Block. Love it. 🙂
growthguidedJune 29, 2017 #127 Author
Detach with love, hopefully! (:
RobbieDecember 11, 2014 #130 Author
Thanks for this, it really puts me at ease and called my inner immaturity out. I needed that.
growthguidedDecember 11, 2014 #131 Author
Glad to provide a smile for your day Robbie (:
callmeDecember 16, 2014 #132 Author
Some of us do NOT TEXT, AT ALL.
This is not everyone’s preferred method of communication. If someone does not want to speak to me on the phone, they are not worth my time period. I am more than happy to eliminated “texting freaks” from my life permanently.
growthguidedDecember 18, 2014 #133 Author
The connection through voice is far more transparent as well!
NeuromancerAugust 18, 2015 #134 Author
Well, perhaps, maybe they do not like to talk on the phone, but ignoring is a perfectly solution..
…. And here you are typing. How ironic!
MattMarch 16, 2016 #135 Author
I wonder why these no-repliers are always so bold only online. What is preventing you from telling your friends, I’d rather be called? Is that such a nerve-wracking process?
I’ve personally let many acquaintances know that I’m not much of a Facebook person. Made my life easier. Honesty is a dying thing, gosh…
KarenJanuary 3, 2015 #136 Author
Not getting back to someone by text, email, phone, mail in a timely manner shows a huge lack of respect and dependability. If you want to have any kind of relationship ( personal or business) with another person you get back to them. Period. Not responding degrades a relationship over time. “I am less likely to respond to them if they fail to respond to me in a timely manner and a downward spiral ensues,”
Not acknowledging or responding within 48 hours at the most in some way, even if it is to say, got your message will reply later conveys a message that they are not important and that you are not dependable. Unless you are in a coma, these reasons are just excuses.
growthguidedJanuary 4, 2015 #137 Author
I totally agree with you.
I feel that in the case of a coma, they get a pass (:
Jasem OmarJune 20, 2016 #138 Author
Most of the people try to find excuses for the peoples who doesn’t reply on your (Phone Call, Text message, E-emails … etc) but if you think about it carefully it’s reaction is unjustified and totally unacceptable and kind of disrespect (Firstly for him self then for others ) , I am talking about the person who doesn’t reply in few days , imagine some one doesn’t reply back on your messages at all , it is worse , in the end still a huge lack of respect, I am really feel sorry for those people, some time I feel that they had a kind of problems in their mentality and life, Thank you all.
RobinskiApril 25, 2017 #139 Author
My job requires me to be “on call” 24/7 with one weekend off per month. I sometimes don’t answer personal texts right away because i need time away from my phone. It is my time to decompress. It may sound selfish to some, but sometimes it is nice to not always be immediately available to everyone all of the time.
Joyce HolzemMarch 13, 2015 #140 Author
I so agree with Karen.People that use “I’m just busy” for not getting back to someone is the worst excuse ever!! If you love&care for someone you make time for them! Not getting a text reply back in a timely manner is the rudest thing ever!! People need to stop these annoying bad habits&be nice&kind to each other!
P allenJanuary 15, 2017 #141 Author
Good answer. I totally agree..
JasmineJanuary 5, 2015 #142 Author
I have a relative who use to text all the time and we would text back asap however, this has changed. I noticed that she does not respond until hours later IF at all. I know for a fact she constantly looks at her phone right away, always on facebook and always messing with it, she reads things immediately. So, I know that when I send a text she is reading it right away. I am tired of her not replying in a timely manner (I don’t expect a quick response even tho I kno she is reading it right away) and I am tired of a NO response more then half the time. So now I rarely bother. I think that technology is good and bad. I think it disconnects people more then connects us. When people go out to eat at a restaurant and everyone is looking at their phones…its sad.
I commented once at a family gathering stating the same and the response I got was “well everyone does it nowadays” and I was shocked at how no one cared about what I said, I don’t even think they really understood my point. So I ended it by saying “well, we might as well all just stay home then” I was really disappointed and sad that here we are all out to a family gathering and everyone was messing with their damn phone.
growthguidedJanuary 5, 2015 #143 Author
I’m glad you touched on the idea of how we get so disconnected from each other through technology Jasmine.
It’s a paradox that we have fallen victim to, especially around meal times.
TravisJanuary 16, 2015 #144 Author
In this day and age not responding to a message is like ingoring someone in person. It is rude and arrogant, you must always reply in a timely manner. There is nothing worse then not getting a response from someone on Facebook and seeing that they have been online numerous times since you sent them the message. They are S***stains and will get what is coming to them.
JoyJanuary 23, 2015 #145 Author
It might also be that the texter texts too much and in a very boring fashion. I work very hard at an intense job, and I enjoy it. During the day, though, I regularly get these texts from a particular acquaintance that go, “HIYA HOWZIT. BORED. SITTING IN PARKING LOT WAITING FOR…”
And if I respond, it will go back and forth and I so want it to end, and I was just happily working before. She also texts early in the morning. I’ve set her conversation to silent and no buzz, so I can sleep on the weekend. I prefer texts for transmitting information, for coordinating plans. I only goof around with my tween daughter by text, to stay in touch when we’re apart, because that is at her level, and I love her.
My relatives will text me during the day, and I enjoy the brief interruption. They are respectful, interesting, brief, and kind.
So, perhaps another reason for non-response is that the texter’s texts are just self-serving and draining. And that we might not want to encourage them to communicate this way because they use it poorly. Even if we wish them well otherwise.
LalaAugust 8, 2015 #146 Author
Wow. Aside from my husband, I do not feel obligated to respond instantly to texts from friends or relatives who are just checking in on me to chat.
I work 50-60 hours a week, and I avoid texting while I’m working. It’s a distraction. When I’m off work, I may spend time on the phone or occasionally even texting with friends. People close to me usually text or leave a voicemail to ask when we can get together or chat by phone.
If I sound anti-social, truly I’m not…. but I recently had to end a friendship with someone who became entirely too demanding of my limited spare time and had no respect for my need to sleep, bathe or deal with personal priorities, like spending quality time with my husband or talking to my mother about a pressing family issue. Being grilled and guilt-tripped about why I’m not responding to her texts, whether I’m choosing to watch a movie with my spouse or trying to enable a terminally ill family member to die in comfort and peace, is going to eventually get you blocked on my phone and probably in my life. And walking into my house at 1am to “see if you’re alright, because you didn’t respond to my text” will get you a restraining order. Yep, she went there…
So, if you’re seeing that I’ve “read” your text but I’m not responding, its probably because I’m checking to make sure it’s not an emergency or an urgent need for information. And if it’s, just another “hiya, what are you doing?”… I’ll get back to you within 24-48 hours.
kimJanuary 25, 2015 #147 Author
I have deleted friends phone numbers from my phone for not txting me.. its not like they called me eithet. It shows how little they actually care about you. It hurts me because i though they were a good friend, but then over time they are never available, im talking about weeks to months. Its not a friendship at that point anymore, if they make no effort to contact you, then even as hard as it may be to let go, they already have. They do not care about you anymore enough to even txt you. I consider txting one of the easiest ways to keep a friendship going. After a year of not receiving any txt, or call then its time to delefe that persons number. If you have already tried conracting them and they ignore you. This goes for the ones that ignore, not the ones that would respond.
HomerJanuary 31, 2015 #148 Author
When you’re a guy, you’re more likely to get laid by rarely responding.
growthguidedJanuary 31, 2015 #149 Author
I absolutely burst into laughter after reading your comment.
People love to chase after something they can’t have!
JoyceMarch 13, 2015 #150 Author
Homer that makes no sense! How in the heck have you convinced yourself of that?? If you never replied to me that would be the end of you!!!!
DkdjdFebruary 25, 2015 #151 Author
The problem I have is it is rude. If someone asks, how are you? You are supposed to answer and ask back. If someone shares some news or anything really by text it works the same way. You reply back! Whether you like them or not has nothing to do with it. Until you grow a pair and tell them I don’t think we should be friends any more you do the polite AND right thing and acknowledge their existence. How lazy are we? A person can’t take a second to reply?!
JessieFebruary 26, 2015 #152 Author
honestly i am not sure what to think and could use some incite.My husband took a job out of state and things were going great and still are as far as he says. personally i email him on Google hang outs everyday as normal and send him a few text through out the day just to tell him that our children and i love him and i call once every day or so. he was normally texting back and same with the emails and with the phone calls. but now i text and there is no reply back he does not answer his cell and he reads my emails but does not reply.As i said i do not know what to think and it has been like this now for seven days now and the only message i received is : i’ll call as soon as i have signal.I love you. And i’ll explain everything in a bit.
growthguidedFebruary 26, 2015 #153 Author
I’m sorry for your lack of connection from your partner Jessie. I hope that he comes to his senses and honors your attempts at contact!
MinaMarch 14, 2015 #154 Author
I always say Hello and cheers to my sisters family through my knee and she hardly reply only and when to ask me if I could buy her tablet or some kind of thing.Now I know hed very very well and I know she is just educated in the spirit I dont give a damn about anyone except if they have some interest that matchs my expectations.Its the teen arrogance kind of think basically me me and only me.So the only thing that upsets me is usually that noone teaches her this is not ok.I know she is better!Same with other people im sure they are better than that and its just pure laziness and carelesness is nothing to do with bad opinion of me or somthing.
AnastasiaMarch 15, 2015 #156 Author
If someone HAS the time of day to read your message it literally takes 10 seconds to send a response. I have someone who I’ve been asking to do something but this individual just ignores the fact and hope it will eventually go away. Anytime i send a message they logon right away but when I ask about them replying they are like I’m too busy which is not accurate.
EnriqueMarch 20, 2015 #157 Author
As a communicator I ask myself that question over and over, one of my first bosses taught me that you always respond an email, a message or a call. It shows respect and it shows you follow through. When we ignore messages, we are not only lacking respect to the person, but we are creating very bad habits, and why not, bad Karma as well.
I believe we are in a bipolar space, where we swing from one extreme to the other. Each time we get a message or are about to do something, we get a whats app, or notification that distract us. So ADD comes in, and to top it all, short term memory is affecting us all. In the mean time, we are hurting the communication with the people whom we have ties. In the past we just got voice messages and decided who to answer.
we have more technology available for us to communicate, we can have facetime calls, skype, whatsapp, make calls from any app..for free. So what, we do not use it. We hardly communicate using the tools we have. And what is sad, is that while we are all busy going about our daily tasks while someone is hurt, just because no one has acknowledge their message.
Call it drama, or tell me that I take it personally. But time, does not comeback. And our time writing and thinking about that person, counts. People should value and respect our time as well. I don’t know where we are going, but certainly not to a good place.
And the excuse is, I am so busy, I have 3 jobs. But then we see their Facebook posts out and about drinking and having fun.
growthguidedMarch 20, 2015 #158 Author
I think you bring up a lot of valid points here my friend! Bad habits being my favourite of them all. Making it a habit to communicate with people and not play the passive aggressive role !
Thank you for stopping in (:
VeeruMarch 25, 2015 #159 Author
I feel people who do not reply within a reasonable time frame, are illiterate, crooked, coward, black heart and they have inferiority complex :()
georgMarch 26, 2015 #160 Author
People who don’t reply within a reasonable time frame are dissing you–as far as they’re concerned, you’re a nobody. I’d bet they’d reply pronto if they got a message from the U.S. Department of Justice stating that they’re under investigation for high crimes and misdemeanors, and that they must report to the U.S. District Court at such and such date or else be in contempt of court.
JudalaApril 6, 2015 #161 Author
trying to reach out to my brother
Not sure why
Last Time I asked him it’s because I do not call my Father ummmmmm
Who his he to judge me.
I am grateful that he is wil my Father(lives with him)world
I guess in my Family there is only one side.
It would be nice to have him truly reach into his soul oh he did and there is no room form me in it
Hurts me but cannot change hime
I care for him and love him but I am not a fool either.
I guess it what it is and will be
growthguidedApril 6, 2015 #162 Author
Very poetic my friend.
Thanks for stopping in!
kaylaOctober 14, 2015 #163 Author
the first one made me feel worst about it now:(
Denise321April 8, 2015 #164 Author
Opinions – what if they say they never got the message? They usually do respond, and it was an important text. So naturally I was upset and now they are wondering why.
They say that week they were having ‘texting problems’ and ‘…hope they didn’t miss a text or something.’
Also, I could’ve sworn it said ‘read’ under my text to them, but now that word is not there! Is it possible that ‘read’ was there and now is not?
How likely is it that someone would not receive a message, and wouldn’t they get it eventually?
Thanks for any input. I know there are only so many possibilities…
growthguidedApril 8, 2015 #165 Author
You are right Denise, there is a plethora of other examples (:
Thank you for stopping in!
RobJune 13, 2015 #166 Author
How about people who text without making sure that you communicate that way. I don’t text. My phone does not notify me when one is received. Why do people assume I want their stupid text message.
NeuromancerAugust 18, 2015 #167 Author
But you seem to be communicating here fairly well? Does you phone not allow for you to text? If someone couldn’t talk on the phone because they were at the dentist, or on public transport, and they could only text, would that still annoy you?
Random TexterJune 15, 2015 #168 Author
I just don’t understand people these days. I’ve been texting people who know me well and think I’m pretty nice… then I text them and they don’t respond… the thing that makes it worse is that is says “read” under the text message… It drives me CRAZY!!! The people have read it, they just don’t want to respond to me. It makes me feel like I’m a bad or mean person and has seriously lowered my self esteem. Plus, it has not stopped.
WHY are people trying to make me feel miserable?!
seanJune 22, 2015 #169 Author
If your dealing with a person who is a narsisit, this could be a reason. You could be in the no contact phase of the narsisitic cycle, or being emotionally abused by selective response only when it suits there needs. They see the text but act as if it wasn’t sent…bottom line …. If its occurring often, they have a bf or gf, and are playing you
JoeJuly 19, 2015 #170 Author
I asked a girl out who liked me and she thought it was my friend in the message, I told her it was me but she hasn’t replied since (it’s driving me crazy)
MMJuly 19, 2015 #171 Author
And it might just be that some people who TEXT are rude. Just call… you can glean much more from the hearing your friends/loved ones’ voice, that a text can’t relay. (happy – sad – upset etc) . Besides…. I got rid of the dang cell…don’t really need it. Have a phone by my elbow at work and a land line at home. Old school yes, but who says that we have to behave like Pavlov’s dogs…answering to the bell all day long. Get over yourselves. It has a benefit, but maybe people really do like not being interrupted; is not all about you. I counter that it’s about being in the present and paying respect to the people in front of you. And texting/answering the phone while in the company of others …(at dinner/lunch) demonstrates that YOU are the one being rude. If someone takes time out of their day to have lunch with you then you need to be respectful and put off that behavior. It sends a message that you do not care about the other person’s time.
growthguidedJuly 20, 2015 #172 Author
I think there are a lot of benefits to surrendering back the “old school” approaches of communication. People texting or utilizing their phones while out for a meal has become an acceptable social norm that needs to be be uprooted.
Thanks for stopping in guys!
TJJuly 21, 2015 #173 Author
Im a heavy texter. I always have time to text. I work at night, which leaves the whole day. I can put away 1 minute of my life to respond to a text. Nobody is ever too busy. The world is not that mean to us. People always say that face to face is the best way. Unfortunately, we dont have the technology to stretch arms across the country. Texting is the best form of communication to my friends for me, because they all live very far away, so physical communication is never an option. I understand that people have jobs and commitments during the day, but that still doesnt leave you in a time warp where you cant spare 11 seconds of your life. Yes, some people are not big texters. Yes, some people just genuinely dont like it. But i had a friend who took three weeks to respond to my text, and i had already solved my own problem. Her excuse was that her phone wasnt on her… Which it always is. Im learning to control my thoughts when people dont respond. Even if it frustrates me, ive never texted them something rude about it. I dont say anything. I always make the effort of telling people, especially when i meet them. I like to subtly ask them if my texts annoy them, and tell them that because i work nights, i dont have a social life, so i dont really see people, so it makes me feel like i annoy them since physical communication isnt even always an option because of swapped days for nights. So pretty much, if they do get annoyed at some point, even if its never my intention (i hate annoying people) then i can say that i did tell them upfront, so it was all on them. Dont get me wrong, its not like i text every moment im awake. I try to keep my texts interesting. But people still dont seem to respond to me. I just feel like there never really is a valid excuse. I do like the comment about courtesy, text like you would talk to them in person, dont just stop, because its like a person walking away from physical conversation. I do feel like people dont want to talk to me most times. I think to an extent, we do have a right to take it a little personally, just because it has become a form of communication, and it deserves the same respect. Because its not going anywhere, we need to act mature and not play stupid.
growthguidedJuly 22, 2015 #174 Author
This comment deserves a lot of recognition. Thank you for your conclusive words and honesty.
Much appreciated you stopped by and expressed yourself.
I think this point below is a mutual respect we should be able to provide to each other.
“text like you would talk to them in person, dont just stop, because its like a person walking away from physical conversation”
ErinNovember 11, 2017 #175 Author
That’s how I feel…texting is a form of conversation in this day/age. Itwould literally be like walking away from a person in mid-convo. II try not to text people I know aren’t very into cell phone or technology even though they have smart phones (like my one coworker…I may text her from time to time when I find something funny I want to share but I don’t text her often). I have an issue where my friend who I’ve had a regular texting relationhip with for 3 years has suddenly stopped responding for no apparent reason. I’ve never done anything to her, never said anything rude or mean to her, and I’m so frustrated. Any thoughts?
RubenJuly 25, 2015 #178 Author
If you ignore them they’ll care about you more then they did before. It’s always like this when you have something/someone you don’t care/want it but when you don’t have something/someone you want it so bad.
HadleyAugust 10, 2015 #180 Author
People who don’t respond are just plain rude. Some times they will respond if they have some time to fill, and other times you cease to be a priority. Facebook, other social media and text bring out the worst in some people. I know someone who point blank refuses to pick up their phone when it rings. I would say that for the majority of our friendship she has never picked up her phone to me – and considering how rarely I call -it amazes me. The same person then tried to verbally slap me in a public place with other friends around only to come off looking silly. She had an os trip coming up and needed some more cashflow and I was calling to invite her to a focus group that was on that evening. Because she chose not to answer her phone she lost $280. As for text and social media? Anyone who chooses not to respond isn’t worth the time. As other people have mentioned most people have their phones in plain view of them. If you’re inviting someone out to an event through these mediums its as simple as yes, no or can I get back to you later? Silence is rude. Be curteous and polite. Ask yourself how you’d like it happening to you. Yes, we do live busy lives with other priorities and commitments, with jobs and families etc that need our attention. I text/fb for the majority of the time in the evenings, or on my way to uni in the mornings. I tend not to get back to people straight away but I ALWAYS do that evening. There is never a good excuse to ignore someone. And by doing it – what does it say about you? to my thinking i think people like this are self absorbed, rude and are not deserving of nice people in their lives. We all sooner or later come across people who write novels through text. Even with these people I will respond, but do it kindly to inform them that its not the right time for me to really respond to it. But to habitually ignore people? You won’t have me as a friend any time soon.
DarksideAugust 16, 2015 #182 Author
I have people who would text me once In a year and these are people I know and have been in touch with in the past very frequently. Then when I reply they won’t respond back for over 2 years. When they are in deep trouble they will text and call me and talk to me and then when they are done I won’t hear from them for another 2/3 years. I don’t care for such people in my life anymore. They are not my friends. Today’s world people have phones with them all the time. It’s okay to take time to respond back but if they don’t reply for over a year it just shows where and what they think about you. It’s sad that in today’s world people don’t realize what they are missing out on for some moment of their own selfish needs that are met at someone’s expense. I have had people who would text me to ask how I am doing and when I reply back usually in the same day they won’t reply back for months at a time and then to see the same
Text sent to me again! I have had weird people like this in my life and I believe that some people like my parents are not tech savvy and I prefer the old fashioned phone call over texts and that makes perfect sense but others in my age group who are constantly on their phones is something I can’t digest that they have not checked their phone during the day.
Casey FritzAugust 28, 2015 #183 Author
There’s a friend I try to text sometimes, but only when I text too much or get mad and ask why they don’t reply does this person not reply. If I am chill, and text just once, then I usually get a reply. Maybe it’s just the amount of texts sent annoy some people.
Chill DudeFebruary 18, 2016 #184 Author
Maybe you should try to either have more empathy, be more straightforward or end the correspondence and stop being so manipulative and mean.
IBikeNYCSeptember 4, 2015 #185 Author
“. . . we are all guilty of this lapse in communication judgment. . . ”
Not THIS one of us.
There are countless excuses but only one REASON for not answering someone.
LoraSeptember 13, 2015 #186 Author
@DEREK yes they only want to respond when they need you…
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growthguidedSeptember 17, 2015 #188 Author
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Wishing you massive success with your site (start it today)!
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growthguidedOctober 5, 2015 #190 Author
I use WordPress with a custom design theme. Best of luck with your own site (:
GigiOctober 11, 2015 #191 Author
I’m sitting on the fence with this. On one hand, I do find it rude when someone doesn’t respond to my texts and when they do I get a “k”. But I also understand if someone can’t respond because life can be quite hectic and busy for many people. At my job, we’re not allowed to use our phones at all. We have walkie talkies that we are required to use. If we have to make a call, we’re only allowed to use a land line. I do have friends that are constantly texting me while at work. I reiterate to them that I cannot talk and I will get back to them when I have free time. I’m also a single mom and have a very busy life outside work and cannot always text them. My time with my family means a lot to me and I don’t wish to spend it constantly looking at my phone. I do make time for everyone in my life, even if it’s for only a short time. And if I text someone and they can’t get back in a timely manner, I understand and don’t get bent out of shape.
PaigeOctober 13, 2015 #192 Author
I’m texting my friend and I’m asking her serious questions and then two days later it will be oh hey not even reply to my messages and then when she wants something straight away she’s on her phone asking me when I know full well she says she ‘busy’ I think I’m going mad. I understand I may send a lot of texts but isn’t that what friends are for to be there for you. Well one thing for sure she’s not. EVER.
ErinNovember 11, 2017 #193 Author
That’s how I feel with my “friend”. We used to text all the time, and now all of a sudden she either doesn’t respond to my texts at all or it only is in response to a “you okay?” and not to anything I sent. I send a lot of texts, too, guilty. I just expect curteousy with people who I have had good experiences with in regards to texting before.
AOctober 13, 2015 #194 Author
I’m a (girl) high school student and I have been friends with this guy for around 4-5 years now. We’ve gone to a different school now for around 3 years so I rarely see him in person. However We still used to text and talk all the time. But around 6 months ago he completely quit texting me. I would text hey every now and then but finally gave up.. . . . However a few weeks ago I was on a trip and he texted me. He also was on vacation and we ended up texting and skyping the whole week. At one point I asked him why he didn’t text me for so long and he claimed that he was just “busy”. I didn’t want to push him so I leftit at that and said ok. He did bring up during that week that we should hang out again soon. But, it’s been around a month since we’ve both got back from our trips. And he rarely texts me. If he does it’s to tell me he has to go to sleep or it’s a extremely short conversation. . . . I really miss talking to him and really need a friend right now to talk to. He’s all I really have and I don’t know what to do. Should I text him and ask if everything’s okay? Or if I did anything? ?
growthguidedOctober 13, 2015 #195 Author
Your worth is never going to be defined by a guy that may or may not be taking your friendship for granted.
You are probably an amazing person with tones of people who would love to be talking to you right now if you would just call and open up to them. They don’t know your struggle unless you put yourself out there. You might be surprised that other friends might have gone through similar experiences and might be able to give you some quality advice in order for your to get through the tough time.
Trust that you will connect with several amazing guys in the future. I know it might be hard to visualize that from where you standing right now but look to the future and trust that you have several amazing people that will be entering into your life.
vijayOctober 19, 2015 #196 Author
If a person ignores you min 4 to 5 times even after seeing your msgs…. Then wake up and realise this – he is not giving you importance as much as you gave him- just ignore him…. He is not worth of giving any place in ur heart…. for example just imagine if someone texts you 2 or 3 msgs dont you reply him when u are free…. U will only ignore him if he is not important same happens with others… Delete his number… If he texts anytime reply “who is this”…he will learn a lesson….
ChrisOctober 27, 2015 #197 Author
I’m not a rude or inconsiderate person because I don’t respond to my texts messages within a time frame that is good for the other person.
My family, friends, colleagues and community members all know I work in the indie film industry and can not answer my phone during working hours. Also, in the evenings I devote my time to God and my family first and my community and my friends second. I have made clear boundaries with people about texting, emailing and calling me. If a person can not understand the lifestyle I live and my personal boundaries around the way I communicate, I can not then feel guilty if they have a negative reaction to the way I respond or communicate via phone, text or email in regards to a response time..
I do my best to accommodate my friends, families, colleagues and community members boundaries and their needs for a communication response within a mutual understanding of a good response time.
People feel they can text message and email a person when ever they feel like it or when they have time and they don’t think about how it will affect the other person.
.When sending a text message people don’t think about how it will interrupt a person and they certainly often don’t take into account the persons lifestyle and needs that they are texting.
For example: I don’t text my friends and family during working hours. I respect they are working and I want their focus to be on work not me. They are getting paid to work. They are not getting paid to respond to me.
If I know its their day off, I will text them after they have slept in and gotten some errands down.
If my friends have kids I will text or call between 7 and 9. This gives them time for supper, homework and getting ready for bedtime.
I always say to people if you have time tonight let me know if its a good time to talk.
I don’t call or text after nine because I don’t want to wake their kids and want to give them time to relax.
The people I communicate with we don’t have text conversations. If our conversation is more then a couple of quick questions we make arrangements to talk on the phone or go for coffee.
If I text message a friend at 10:00 a.m. during their working day I don’t expect a reply. I expect people to respond to me when it’s good for them.
For me: I call my out of town friends and family on Sundays. I respond to text messages either on a lunch break, in the evening or on a day when it is good for me.
It’s not just about being too busy to text someone back. It’s about being in the mood to respond to someone or ensuring you are not taking away from the focus of the people or things you are doing at the time you receive a message from someone.
I don’t answer my phone when Im out for dinner or spending time with people. I shut my phone off.
I think its rude when people know you have a lot of commitments and they keep texting you and get angry when you can’t respond.
As a friend would same someone else’s 911 its necessarily my 911. If you need to talk to the person you are texting meet them half way and say something like I could use a friend to talk to because Im having a bad day. Could you contact me as soon as you have time?
More often then not you will get a response right away.
I don’t feel like my phone should be a free for all for all my contacts in my phone to contact me all day long when ever they want too. Especially, if they are not a close family member or friend and its not a work related message.
Relationships and respect go both ways. People shouldn’t expect instant replys to their messages, but they can hope for a timely response within a week.
Some weeks are bad timing for people and if I don’t hear from a friend because they had too much on their plate or they simply needed a time out from the world I don’t judge them. I support them.
I don’t feel the need to be at the beck and of my phone whenever someone sends me a message and I don’t expect people to be at my beck and call either and jump every time I contact them.
Also, I have an app on my phone that I turn on for days and weeks that I can’t respond to people. It’s says Im. Away from my phone and I can’t respond right now.
Get te I’m busy or not available app for your phone to help solve some of these issues and set up boundaries with people.
I always apologize if my friend gets a one week delay response. I’ll say something like: Sorry or the delay. I wasn’t ignoring your text. It was a busy week an I’m just responding to people now.
Thanks for this article.
growthguidedOctober 27, 2015 #198 Author
You are most welcome for the article Chris. I appreciate your well thought through comment.
zetaOctober 29, 2015 #199 Author
growthguidedOctober 29, 2015 #200 Author
I think you bring up a great point Zeta. A lot of these same feelings can be applied to people ignoring email correspondence as well. I’m sure many of the readers will relate to the link your provided. Thank you!
BarbaraNovember 14, 2015 #201 Author
No excuse to respond to a text within 24 hours. Common courtesy to reply within a reasonable timeline of say 24 hours.
MarieDecember 27, 2015 #202 Author
What is appropriate for one person may NOT be for someone else. There will always be conflict when it comes to texting, because some assume that others should adhere their timeline. Then there are those of us that are not texters and tell people upfront, only to deal with “the texters and overtexters” trying to constantly challenge us to conform. #neverhappening
TomDecember 1, 2015 #203 Author
I’ve heard countless excuses for texts that go unanswered. I’ve concluded people don’t return texts simply because they don’t want to. If someone’s not returning your text–especially the people who are ALWAYS on their phones, even checking every Facebook notification during a movie or in the middle of an in-person conversation with you–it means you’re not a priority to them. I’ve actually texted people who won’t return my texts in even a week with something that’ll benefit them–notice of a job opening, for example. Within seconds, they’ll text me back. And the worst texting offenders are the ones who become most impatient and even angry (all caps, multiple exclamation points) when they text me and I don’t reply within literally a few minutes. Just like in so many other areas of life, people prioritize what benefits them.
growthguidedDecember 3, 2015 #204 Author
You have totally highlighted some truth here. Self-centeredness is the route of many evils! Have yourself a peaceful week my friend!
LisaDecember 4, 2015 #205 Author
If I’m dating/friends with someone and I observe that they are very attached to their phone. Like it’s always in their hand, they’re quick to take it out evey time it makes a sound. But when I text them, they take an inappropriately long time to respond, or don’t respond at all. This makes me suspicious of our friendship/relationship.
shellDecember 10, 2015 #206 Author
Text is not always the most reliable method. do people really get their panties in a wad about this? Maybe it’s a generational thing. I personally feel that it was that important, you would have actually phoned me. I had a friend who yelled at me once for never answering my cell phone. I politely reminded her that I purchased my cell phone for my convenience not hers. If I don’t answer texts/phone calls, it’s because it’s not convenient at that time. And I prefer it when people return that favor because what I find even more annoying then people not responding immediately is when people answer the phone/text back and say “I can’t talk right now”. SO WHY did you pick up the phone in the first place.
jerryDecember 14, 2015 #207 Author
growthguidedDecember 14, 2015 #208 Author
Merry Christmas Jerry. Thank you for taking the time to read my post!
Clay WoodsDecember 27, 2015 #209 Author
its been like 12 days and i still havent gotten a text back, im gonna try and say, ” i have a question” and see if she responds and if she does im gonna say, “oh, there never was a question, i was just trying to see if you are purposely ingoring me, and i guess you are”
growthguidedDecember 27, 2015 #210 Author
or the other infamous approach …. “OMG….did you hear about what happened to_________?”
MarieDecember 27, 2015 #211 Author
None of the reasons you gave fit me and my sparse texting habits. I state it upfront to alleviate any confusion, but some guys will do it anyways amd try to bombard my phone with text at all hours.
I barely text and here are my reasons why:
1. I do not want to leave myself open to being bombarded and to have my rest/sleep disrupted at all hours, because many do not subscribe to the common sense rule of “too late to call too late to text, vice versa if it’s too early.
2. Miscommunication happens and with constant texting it happens more often.
3. I don’t want to be on anyone’s electronic leash of” where are you, helloooooo, wyd, hru… “.
4. Too much texting kills real communication. It’s not a way to bond, unless that bond was established beforehand.
5. Some people expect an instantaneous reply, even though they don’t know what you’re doing: if you’re busy, in the middle of working, etc.
6. And 5. leads some to being emotional or even erratic when they don’t get a reply.
Those are my main reasons. And, another example: I talk with this guy that I just met. We had a brief convo and at the end of it, I tell him I’m going to bed as it’s about 10pm on a weeknight. I had already informed him of my views about text when we exchanged numbers.
He proceeds to text me after I went to bed up until midnight, with the last text stating “okay, you must really be asleep. Good night.”
Nothing will kill a vibe more than being bombarded when you tell someone you’re going to bed and they continue to text you after you’ve talked to them. And, I know some people do it to see if: they’ll get a reply, or how fast they can get you to jump.
I just thought of:
7. The overtexter, someone that texts you every detail of what’s going on with them, like full blown journal entries. I have a neighbor that is a neurotic housewife, she would text me at all hours, run on paragraphs, because each segment would have multiple subjects within them. I had to ban her from texting me. She needs a therapist and I am not equipped for that. Plus, I feel when you’re friends with someone at some point you can have a conversation. She’s a user and uses people for her selfish reasons.
RossDecember 27, 2015 #212 Author
my theory is people have 3 categories for others. 1) like 2) indifferent 3) dislike
If a person is on your liked list, then if they message you, you will be happy that they contacted you/are important enough to them that they contacted you. You will therefore message them back, so as not to potentially sour the relationship. If a person is on your disliked list, then obviously you won’t respond, in fact they probably won’t even have your number, which leaves the “indifferent” category. In this category, you sort of like the person, but really couldn’t give a shit about their existence either way, if you feel like it you’ll message them back, if you don’t , you won’t but no fucks will be given about how they feel about your reply or lack thereof. I feel being put into this category is WORSE than simply being disliked. It’s not being cared about but being potentially kept around for uses you might provide in the future. If someone ignores my messages I will usually give them 1 or 2 chances depending on how much I like said person. Any more than that is a blatant signal that my relationship to them is irrelevant. so from that point on they are dead to me.
RichMarch 7, 2016 #213 Author
You nailed it.
I’d rather be slapped in the face with the truth than ignored or lied to.
MarieDecember 29, 2015 #214 Author
I thought about one more…#8 and it hit me today as to why it irks me so much with how someone new assumes that I should conform to what they want and how it becomes an issue early on. See the way I relate to text is the way I relate to those closest to me – my need to be responsive comes with time and trust. I feel most people now have things in reverse, they will be responsive and completely engrossed with strangers, many are very casual about giving out their number and wasting hours texting. I am responsive to those that I know and that’s come with time and trust.
It goes back to not wanting to be bombarded and feel as though I’m on-call or that said person can disrupt my rest whenever they choose. Many make themselves way too accessible to those that are not even worthy and then wonder why they keep getting mistreated.
Those that are closest to me know how I feel about text and they respect it, just as I respect them. Whereas someone you barely know will not know you and many don’t respect you right off the bat.. Thanks to instantaneous everything, many assume that they’re entitled to everything when they want it. Instead of grasping that if you are someone new to that person, their responsiveness may be based on that. At least for me it is.
growthguidedDecember 29, 2015 #215 Author
I can relate a lot to your 8th point. I think many people give trust more easily than others, offering a wide spectrum of barriers of connection dependant on their live experiences.
MattMarch 16, 2016 #216 Author
Yet, you can simply not be honest about it too the other person? I think I found the only valid reason why people don’t return texts: They are inconsiderate humans.
If you were talking to a stranger irl, would you even wait 5 mins to respond to a question? It’s not about being too engrossed in each other; how quick one responds to the other has nothing to do with that. If you want to maintain your distance, you do it with *the subject of your conversation*, aka small talks. The other person will pick up that you are not that invested in them from the shallowness of your conversations!
Maria De IonnoJanuary 2, 2016 #217 Author
I always reply to texts and phone calls and or return the call if I missed the call . I find it rude and unprofessional when people don’t reply, answer my calls or return my call.
In a business environment emails, phone calls and letters need to be replied in a timely matter mostly within 24-48 hours, even if only a letter to acknowledge their correspondence and will reply in due course.
The same should apply to texts and personal phone calls. Usually family and friends will know when you are working and will understand if you can’t reply straight away, but I always reply during my lunch break, before and after work.
nikiJanuary 2, 2016 #218 Author
Honestly I don’t respond to repeat msgs that everyone sends..like hi.. hey..what’s up..wyd? That means they have ntn going on or Ntn to talk about nd expect u to entertain them since they have a few mins or hrs to goof off on their phone.Sorry but I’m not the entertainment committee so I refuse to reply to bored ppl…I hate when ppl say hi I’m bored ugh like seriously..
Maria De IonnoJanuary 4, 2016 #219 Author
So you never send a text to your friends to say hello, how was their weekend? Especially if you don’t see them every week. I don’t reply when working but in my lunch break, before or after work. I have a small circle of friends and 2 live interstate. I am from Australia so maybe it is different to different countries. I still reply to these messages as I find it rude. To each to our own I suppose. Sometimes people call to say hey, do you hang up on these people?
JonasKJanuary 4, 2016 #220 Author
How to make people stop disrespecting you? Stop tolerating it.
Do not stand for anyone in your life who does not respect your time, property and energy. And always respect people in those ways, instead of trying to change others.
You will attract better people, and leave behind some of the not-so-great ones. Stop whining & pining for lousy so-called/no-show friends. Be proactive in the process of building a life that includes great people, and be no less than one yourself, lest you be a hypocrite.
MUGISA JONAHDABJanuary 5, 2016 #221 Author
Max, the rwason as to why you dont respond is number 5 & stop lying to people.
im a newbieJanuary 5, 2016 #222 Author
well, i think the #4 got me in my very own situation. last august 2015 i texted my aunt to asked her if she could petition me abroad.. i never heard anything from her since then, and this monday she texted me greeted me a very marvelous new year and sent me money which i never ask and expect.. so i brought up again the same favor i asked 4months ago but no reply at all.. even just to say no and give me the effin lame reason id understand!.. isn’t that too hard for em to say directly the NO or YES word?? (sigh)
Golden GirlJanuary 10, 2016 #223 Author
Why would someone text like,How are you today? Then, I respond and hear nothing for a couple days or so.. I think that this is weird. Why would you never have at least a short conversation. Yjen a couple days later,same thing. Are they just wondering if i am still alive?
LenaJanuary 15, 2016 #224 Author
There are two people who currently piss me off by being ignorant of my texts. Both of them do it deliberately for whatever reason, be it playing hard to get/stoned/telling me to fuck off in a passive-aggressive way, whatever. The silence, in the most unhappy and unstable hands can be extremely humiliating and condescending. To the people who work on this principle, be it for your own narcissistic ingratiation or to have a bit of fun when someone is needing YOU for once, be very careful. It can end ugly. Very bloody ugly.
Both people only contact me or reply when they fucking need me. My shift is over!
nikiJanuary 23, 2016 #225 Author
If I were you I would remove their # from my contacts to help u from reaching out to them.. Unless u already know their # by heart. Either way just don’t respond to them and when they finally do drop u a line just wait a few days and be simply uninterested in whatever it is.so they know how it feels to not matter..
DJanuary 24, 2016 #226 Author
A handful of times I have hung out with someone who is in my field. I sense she wants to be close friends based on the number of times and frequency she texts me trivial things. The only people I text often with are people I see as being good friends. I’ve tried ignoring her texts, responding short responses, waiting a long time between texts to respond. She doesn’t seem to get the hint and I don’t think it’s because she’s so clueless, I think it’s more so that she wants what she wants without caring what I want. She’s encroaching on my personal space by assuming a level of closeness that isn’t there in a medium that’s easy to do that. To all the people on here who say not responding to a text is the same as not saying hello to someone in the street or bowing out of a conversation curtly at a party, I say it is not. We didn’t choose to be in the same space or happen upon one another on a random day. Sorry, but if someone doesn’t respond often or enough to you, that person is just not that into you. They may simply want to be acquaintances, you know like that type who make chit chat when they run into you in the street or at a party. I’m not obligated to be at anyone’s beck and call or prioritize someone in my life. All the people complaining here, need to learn to be more autonomous and to pursue people who are genuinely interested, not obligate them because they have their phone on them at all times.
nikiJanuary 26, 2016 #227 Author
Yօʊ sօʊռɖ stʊċҡ ʊք… Maʏɮɛ ʊ sɦօʊʟɖռ’t ɢɨʋɛ քքʟ ʊʀ # ɨʄ ʊ ɖօռ’t աaռt tօ ɮɛ ɮօtɦɛʀɛɖ ɮʏ tɦɛʍ… Iʝs ..ɨռstɛaɖ օʄ քʊttɨռɢ ɦɛʀ օռ a ɮaċҡ ɮʊʀռɛʀ ʊ sɦօʊʟɖ ʝʊst ɛxքʟaɨռ tօ ɦɛʀ ʊ ɦaʋɛ ɛռօʊɢɦ ċʟօsɛ ʄʀɨɛռɖs atʍ ռɖ ɖօռ’t ռɛɛɖ aռʏʍօʀɛ at tɦɨs tɨʍɛ
DFebruary 28, 2016 #228 Author
I don’t give out my # because I want to be bothered by people, I give it out because I want to connect. Since I don’t know from the start if these are people who want to connect with me or bother me, that is the chance I take in giving out my #. Once I give it out, that’s when I found out if the person is a pest or not. I’m not stuck up, and I found it really bitchy of you to call me that. I’m trying to establish boundaries with people who I don’t want constant contact with. And I’ve tried the approach of letting people know directly that I don’t want as much contact only to find them get offended. The particular coworker would text me “hey” or “how are you” every week or every few days, even after I told her I would see her in a few weeks. We are not close friends for me to be her backup when she’s bored. Nor should I be.
minaFebruary 7, 2016 #229 Author
What if I responded to a text from a sales recruiter after two hours because I left my phone at home. In the missed call log, there he first made a call and after a minute, he texted regarding how the products taste like? I am expecting a reply from him re my answer to his query but he never did. Now, I’m thinking that he might be thinking that I am no longer interested in the product he is endorsing me. Whatever his reason,he must have still answered back or comment on my reply right?
Liz L.February 13, 2016 #230 Author
I’m having my carrier shut off text service. People who think they need to text every day “How is your day?”. Or report every single thing they’re doing are seriously insecure.
Before I have them shut off texting, I’m emailing and calling my friends to let them know, so they won’t take it personal. Also, it’s bad for posture, smd a repetitive motion that can be bad for your joints.
My days are the same. I am not your child, nor your spouse, so please stop. It’s fine to text over photos or anecdotes, but to text the same old B.S. every single day is super annoying. Not only that, but they go on texting for ever, unless you say you’re going to bed, work, eating dinner. I purposely have been OFF Facebook for about two years. To me, friends that text every day must be bored. But there is no need to text or even talk to people every day, unless you live with them, they’re your children, etc..
Yes. Some people DO get in trouble using their phone at work, unless on a break. I turn my phone off while at work. Why do we need 24/7 connection?? WE DO NOT!
If someone called me every day with the same stuff, that would get old fast.
Time away makes you miss someone… It also allows both people to live their individual lives, thereby having things to talk about when they do.
I’m sorry, but the pissy people getting bent out of shape about basic comments (*not important issues), sent in text form not being answered quickly enough or not at all (there are many things that do not require replies), need to step off.
As another person said, none of us is more or less important than the other. The complaining about this is as bad as the random guy who calls a woman (he doesn’t know) a rude name because she doesn’t respond as he walks by when he says something to her.
People have lives to live. If someone tells/texts off a friend because they didn’t respond to some unsolicited text, that’s petty.
This technology sure makes a lot of people feel entitled.
People need their personal space. Maybe those who can’t seem to get on with living without text response (timely or not), need to try indulging in their own personal space/time. It’s something that is healthy. No one should be expected to be “powered on” 24/7 unless it’s part of their job…and laws help them if it is.
Think or say what you will, it’s my opinion.
JamesFebruary 14, 2016 #231 Author
#7 doesn’t apply if you know they saw your message and they just posted something on fb “a few minutes ago.” lol
AnisFebruary 28, 2016 #232 Author
Whom ever you are testing is NOT into you. That’s my conclusion.
I ought to start a blog as per @growthguided suggestion, to channel my urge to ‘chat’ with someone out there, and spare those whom were not at all interested in what I want to tell them.
Sally JayMarch 8, 2016 #233 Author
I hate when I send a photo or text to friends and they don’t respond, so I think maybe they didn’t receive it so I send another and ask did you receive my last photo and text I sent and they come back with yes they did. SO I don’t text them again for months then they text me haven’t heard from you for awhile. I know they are always on FB and on their mobile, I withdraw and go cold on them.
MattMarch 16, 2016 #234 Author
The world doesn’t have to revolve around me for me to get a response even once in a while. I find that reason is a piggy back of, “You’re too clingy”, aka–I don’t want to talk to you, but I don’t want to be honest about it either.
I am not one to get angry at being ignored. Fine. What I get upset at is a lack of honesty. I don’t want to have to run my mind about Why you’re not texting. Reading this comment, it is now obvious that I should drop the matter. Maybe the other person will pick it up if they find any importance in it
KylieApril 11, 2016 #235 Author
I’m the kind of person that doesn’t text back, I’m 13. My best friend is having a pissy fit because she texted me “oh” and I didn’t respond. I was helping with a food drive that day and I immediately had to put my phone down. She won’t text me back know, so she’s getting back at me. It’s so annoying sometimes because she says she cares more about me, but I want to resolve the issue instead of ignoring each other. Is she truly my best friend…?
LillianApril 11, 2016 #236 Author
Wow…..these reasons are not very true at all, to me. First off just because I’m “to lazy” to reply to a message does not mean that I don’t respect the person. I love my friends very much, but I’m an introvert and I get energy from being by myself. No one should disturb me in my time of peace. My friends all know that I make excuses and most of them are okay with it because they know that I need my time alone. I respect everyone that I need to and want to. Just because I don’t respond does not mean that I don’t respect you.
I’m only 13 so please excuse my grammar mistakes or wrong spelling.
KmeowApril 13, 2016 #237 Author
I was completely immersed in reading books these past weeks that I didn’t checked my phone. And poof! After finishing one of my fave books I received tons of angry ,degrading curses from my bestfriend(who is actually my neighbor) just because I didn’t replied to her right away.And I told her sorry and that I was actually using my time on other things not just being online 24/7. And now I feel manipulated and obliged to reply to her after all those hurtful words that she said to me just because of a text. Is texting and being available EVERY SINGLE DAY the basis of a real friendship? ? It does not mean that I didn`t replied to her I hate her. It’s just that I prefer to use my summertime wisely through reviewing my lessons and reading books.
MaxJune 22, 2016 #238 Author
You have hit upon the evil of text messages. You are dead right. Your neighbor has no right to hold you hostage by expecting instant replies. This person is your neighbor, and she didn’t bother to try telephoning, or coming over and knocking on your door. Angry degrading curses? She showed nothing but laziness and contempt for you. “Either you answer my texts… OR ELSE!”
I’d be putting that number into the ignore list and find a new friend. (and I’m not joking).
AceMay 20, 2016 #239 Author
I was in a brutal relationship with a narcissistic sociopath for a long time and I have broken up with her over a simple solitary text massage asking how was her week and if she is OK that went unanswered for about 24 hrs… After that I just refused to except her calls and to reply to her sms and emails which have been streaming for the whole week like a flood… People who do this sort of crap to you having themselves hard time to tolerate it! So I guess some bad things can be pretty good for you after all ; ))
AlexMay 20, 2016 #240 Author
Just wanted to say thanks, I appreciate the blog that has been set up, you must have put a lot of time and thought into what you have written. Hope you have a great day author!
growthguidedMay 22, 2016 #241 Author
That was very kind of you. Thank you!
SalmonMay 20, 2016 #242 Author
I ignore all my text messages unless it’s from my mum or if someone texts me saying they’re ‘in trouble come quick’ or there’s some specified time limit to answering the text. If they know it’s me being passive aggressive or playing mind games then they know more than me
nancyMay 28, 2016 #243 Author
when a guy is online and does not respond to your texts thats soo boring ,………..so does that mean he aint interested
personally i think its rude when you dont respond to texts …shows disrespect …
MaxJune 22, 2016 #244 Author
I love the one about
“They are lazy and don’t respect you enough to respond to you.”
This right here is what’s wrong with the entire text-based “quick gratification” communication style that our society has adopted.
I AM LAZY??
How about., “YOU are lazy because you can’t be bothered calling me to actually talk to me, or for long-distance communication and non-urgent things, to write a letter (remember those???)” Yeah, right. Your mindless tic-tic-tic on a stupid phone to send me a message deserves an immediate reply. Otherwise you might be offended. What a joke.
This is what’s wrong with giving up “traditional” forms of communication.
“Traditional” – The codeword which really means:
“Actual communication that takes thought, time and effort, and requires you to
turn your head away from the phone or computer. and pay attention to me while
you address me.”
Amongst all forms of communication, text messages go right to the bottom of my priority list. You wanna talk to me, call me. Otherwise, don’t be shocked if I don’t jump to answer you just because you sent me a text message.
OceanJune 30, 2016 #245 Author
I have a girl friend who we went to junior and senior together. After HS, we did fun stuff together. But ever since 2016 rolled in, I have tried FB messaging, Instagram, texting, and even calling her to know if she wants to go to Starbucks, pool, or the beach and still, NOTHING! Why doesn’t she ever respond to me anymore? I know she has her phone b/c she’s on FB and hit like on something of mine, she SnapChated, or is on Instagram. :[ It really pis*ses me off. >:[ I am like 1/8th of an inch on giving up on her. When she FINALLy responds, it’s; “Hehe, sorry, I’ve been soooo busy with work.” If you’re so busy, why’d you snapchat going to the pool?! Ugh!! What is her deal guys?
SeiphiiJuly 12, 2016 #246 Author
my main reason for not responding isn’t on here…
– I couldn’t think of a good way to respond and eventually either gave up or got distracted and forgot the text ever came.
SumeetAugust 2, 2016 #247 Author
I would say if someone is truly busy / stuck up then its quite reasonable they reply late. But such situations are rare. And then, if they care then will send a message like “Really sorry i am late to reply”.
You can easily tell whether someone doesnt reply because they are genuinely/truly busy or they just dont like you or care about you.
If someone doesnt care to reply. I think the best thing would be to just accept and move on.
Because those who doesnt care doesnt deserve your time and love and support that you are offering them.
If they come back let them know that their previous behaviour is not acceptable.
RobAugust 5, 2016 #248 Author
For me, need to reply or make texts are messages of:
1. Messages to your boss or to work.
2. Death in the Family.
3.. Surprise sending money to anyone you wish.
4. Outside of these are not necessary.
RobAugust 4, 2016 #249 Author
Actually if not because of my boss required me to have a cellphone, I will never have it again. Simply because: 1. All messages are sort of an obligation for me to do and to give to someone. 2. If not about items in No. 1, messages are non sense and unnecessary, others are unimportant that it can wait the day after. Most of text I received I don’t respond except coming from my office or boss. I even don’t response for text from a family unless I’m sending money, I do one text only even they have hundreds on follow up when can I send money bec. their messages are the same all about money for me to give.
DamselAugust 26, 2016 #250 Author
I heard a great quote a while back that I always think of in this regard “I own the phone the phone does not own me.” I think it is passive aggressive to not return a text to someone on purpose. There is always time within 24 hours to reply. I don’t think texting back immediately or even within the hour is that questionable. I also think the nature of the relationship and context and content are variable when texting back someone. I’ve been completely perplexed in the whole texting world and really don’t follow rules. I really don’t care if I come across as needy or a pest, I just text as I feel I need to. If someone can’t handle it on the other end, they can be assertive enough and tell me. I will adjust to suit their requests. I think we have become way to complicated with rules etc. Just do what you feel, if you screw things up due to timing, content, etc. then they obviously didn’t care about you in the first place to overlook those little details. Be authentic and be who you are.
Jessica SimSeptember 5, 2016 #251 Author
I have this friend that doesn’t reply my messages. It’s so annoying. She only doesn’t reply me. But replays one of my best friends… So annoying!! I still can’t get over people not replying messages.
JimSeptember 11, 2016 #252 Author
I think everyone has genuinely looked at a text message and decided do I need or want to reply it. Some times the text does not actually need to be responded to, but in general I think if a person does not respond, the sub-text is, you are not important. I think you need to wise up, and see if this what they do in general, or are selective who they reply to, and who they do not. They may think they are actually saving both parties time and effort by not replying, because they expect the sender to pick up the vibe. The fact that a person does not respond is a message, the sub-text is, I am not interested, leave me alone!
NateoOctober 4, 2016 #253 Author
…..And what would happen if a black out occurred?…Can’t wait to see the chaos unfold hwahahaha. >:D
Anyways, here’s my opinion on all of this (cause this is pretty huge topic it seems). Texting or any such media communication is awesome when it comes to work, emergencies, dates, relationships, confirmations and the list goes on. But for social conversations, I wouldn’t care so much about it. Honestly, being overly worked up over someone not replying back soon enough just tells me you got nothing better to do, and cowardly refuse to go out and actually meet up face to face. I got way more important things to do than to worry about carrying on a virtual conversation. If someone got pissed about me not texting back soon enough, I wouldn’t give a flying f*** really. Either call me, or get your a** over here and let’s create the most sexiest stickman in the city, or bye bye and unfriend me. We all got lives and hobbies ya know?
If I want to text back, then I will under my pace.
I don’t think the person who’s not replying over an unimportant conversation is classified as rude. I’d give the lolipop to that laddy instead of the person prosecuting and flipping out.
And something for relationships. If you got dear soul mate, freakin be around him/her more often then, or skype whichever. Personally, suspecting of your significant other cheating just because s/he never replies soon enough is a tad wacko. Per chance, you could be asking for it. (101 guys, “TRUST”).
And in my defence, I do have friends and I do text them back within a 1 – 3 day timeline and received no complaints whatsoever.
Plus, Psssh dare for anyone to call me rude. I’m very friendly when I’m around people. Texting is a different story, cause well, there isn’t any body language to observe.
Wrapping up, I feel like people just got way too sensitive over things that barely or don’t matter at all. If that’s what you stand for though and how you operate, go ahead and float your boat. Just don’t text me. 😛
TevinOctober 8, 2016 #254 Author
erm i no longer expect texts back. i get left on read and im surprised when someone responds to my texts 🙂
kadenceNovember 25, 2016 #255 Author
My Best friend isnt responding to me and she normally responds to me within 10 min max. I havnt done anything to upset her. I havnt heard from her in 2 days. What do i do? Im getting kinda worried.
ADecember 11, 2016 #256 Author
It’s been a couple weeks now. Have you heard from her?
M oo NaDecember 3, 2016 #257 Author
I don’t reply to messages on SNS because I don’t feel like replying at all, I really like to talk with people, I’m very social also. But when I get messages from the very people who I talk with, I don’t reply.. not because I’m egoistic,mean or don’t value them.. I do.. but chatting via text seems so unrealistic.. I just can’t get my thoughts across to them so I refrain from replying.. I fear that they’ll find me boring cause of my texts.
ADecember 10, 2016 #258 Author
I met this hot girl on an online dating site who texted me from the time I got up until the time she went to bed for almost a week. She texted me while she was supposedly at work and on her way home with minimal interruption (I suspected she was driving while texting). I have to admit, I kind of liked her attention and interest in me, although it was hard to gauge her level of interest through text messaging alone. She always wanted to know what I was doing and we hadn’t even met. One day I knew she was going to be busy, as was I, so all I sent her was a text to say “good morning.” The next day, she texted me asking why she hadn’t heard anything from me and if everything was okay. She agreed to let me talk to her on the phone but it was only briefly. She ended the phone conversation by saying she had something to do and would text me later. Anyhow, I enjoyed chatting with her via SMS and we were talking about meeting up. I had been drinking that evening and texted her something inappropriate. I texted her to apologize the following morning and she seemed okay. It wasn’t until I saw her post something on Facebook later in the morning that I realized everything wasn’t okay. I asked if I could call her when she got home from work to explain. She let me call but couldn’t bring herself to talk. I heard her say “shit,” hang up, and text me to say she would call me right back. A few minutes later, I saw her passive-aggressively posting a meme about being broken-hearted on Facebook and gaining sympathy from her FB “friends.” I immediately unfriended her and texted her to officially call things off. I knew I f’d up, and I didn’t wanted to be a bigger jerk by unfriending her on Facebook, but it was something I had to do to move on since I obviously couldn’t do damage control. Plus, I got to keep the upper hand.
growthguidedDecember 11, 2016 #259 Author
How did keeping the upper hand reward you ? (:
ADecember 11, 2016 #260 Author
In the end, there was no reward. It was more to save my ego and sanity at that point. It would have been more crushing if she had unfriended me first. My attitude was like, if you’re going to be passive-aggressive, so will I. Click. She used reasons #4 and definitely #9 in the article for not responding back.
JohnJanuary 3, 2017 #261 Author
It also saves you from hearing about her new bf later in a status update.
DanDecember 13, 2016 #262 Author
Nobody really cares to reply to my texts anyway, I’m just gonna become really mean and evil and not text anyone anymore. No friends, just me and my hobbies
growthguidedDecember 13, 2016 #263 Author
Something tells me that you are too good of a guy to become evil Dan! Merry Christmas! I wish you an amazing week! (Consider that a text back!)
RyleighDecember 26, 2016 #264 Author
Don’t fight fire with fire it just comes back to bite you in the butt.
ErinNovember 11, 2017 #265 Author
ErinNovember 11, 2017 #266 Author
Not so much evil but not texting anymore and focusing on hobbies lol
RyleighDecember 26, 2016 #267 Author
I have been waiting for 2 1/2 hours for my friend to reply back to me because we are supposed to go to the movies in 3 hours and I still need her to tell me if she can come. And I know she has her phone because she has it all the time in school.
EmmaJanuary 5, 2017 #268 Author
Well I’ve been waiting for a month now. Tell me about patience.
laurenJanuary 13, 2017 #269 Author
ugh people are the worst
i hate it when i’m talking to my friend and she doesn’t reply but then she’ll post something on instagram. i’m not stupid i know you’re just ignoring me
AlexJanuary 16, 2017 #270 Author
I found a very simple f&!king solution for this motherf&!king annoying problem, if the person responds to you, then keep her as a friend, didn’t respond to you F&!KING DELETE HER. As simple as that. 1- Responds keep, 2- doesn’t respond, block her and tell her to go f&!k herself. F&!KING SIMPLE. I’M SO MAD. Take this advice man, it f&!king works, it doesn’t stress you out, doesn’t make you think, makes you feel happy. and remember the most IMPORTANT THING IS to not f&!king care, treat people like shit, care about who cares and f&!k the others man. F&!K MY LIFE
ErinNovember 11, 2017 #271 Author
That’s how I’m feeling about now…
CherylJanuary 18, 2017 #272 Author
I know a guy that is too dumb to know he should answer.
GuestFebruary 4, 2017 #273 Author
The one thing I can’t stand is they don’t reply to your text but they are all over social media posting selfies.
growthguidedFebruary 4, 2017 #274 Author
This seems to be a very common experience that a lot of people experience. Many of us can relate to that frustrating feeling of being ignored!
MakhylaFebruary 6, 2017 #275 Author
Okay so the guy I like said he was sick and the day after I did not see him at school so I texted him hey are u still sick I hope ur okay and he seen but never replayed and after that I was like well he is sick so I brushed it off and than he got on twenty minutes ago but did not say any thing so what does it mean
corburt erilioMarch 4, 2017 #277 Author
I was suggested this blog by my cousin. I am not sure whether this post is written by him as no one else know such detailed about my trouble. You are incredible! Thanks!
LarryApril 22, 2017 #278 Author
This really isnt my name i just didnt want to get stocked but the one that is really rare my friend said her phone died once and i belived her
LondonJune 14, 2017 #279 Author
my girlfriend hasnt texted me back in four days and its a long distance relationship, so im really worried about her. she wouldnt ignore me, shes not like that. (yes were both girls get over it)
JoshJune 18, 2017 #280 Author
I dislike using my phone to text. It is a huge problem for my girlfriend… shes about to leave me over it (among other things). Because I dont text hello in the morning, or respond quick enough. I have the same complaints from my friends. I guess, this might be the day and age that we communicate like this, but its mine and others choice to opt out. Making us feel like pieces of shit over it is wrong. If im living my life how I want to who the hell are you to tell me otherwise. I see my girl every day, but the hours that we are apart that I dont “pay attention” to her are tearing us apart. BULLLSHIT
JohnJune 22, 2017 #281 Author
I read through most of these and I think people are forgetting that texting took the place of phone calls and phone calls are really an interruption. When the phone rings you don’t have to get it. Just like if someone texts you, you don’t have to respond. We keep putting ourselves into these positions of having to react, respond, take action, to someone trying to get our attention or communicate to us. We don’t! Nobody has to answer the phone, nobody has to respond to a text. It’s the person sending the message who is causing the interruption and seeking a response. Even if someone showed up to your door you have a right not to answer the door. Besides if someone really liked you or wanted to communicate with you they would show up in person, and not send a juvenile text.
ErinNovember 11, 2017 #282 Author
My supposed best friend has been ignoring my texts a LOT since she got her new job about 6 months ago. We used to work together and talked ALL the time and then all of a sudden communication has trickled to barely anything. I understand she’s not able to text much at work, busy with her kids’ activities and her “boyfriend”, but I am tired of being treated like nothing. I always respond to texts or phone calls from family and friends. I also find it hard to believe that she doesn’t have access to her phone at lunch, where she can catch up on texts, or later at night when the kids are in bed and she doesn’t have her boyfriend over. I feel like our friendship has gone down the drain and there is NO reason for that to have even happened.
Teddy RNovember 23, 2017 #283 Author
This is the dopest post ahahaha. Fuck, finally someone writes what I and im sure many others are thinking and feeling.
TECH-KILLED-THE-WORLDJanuary 9, 2018 #284 Author
I know of dogs, I mean gutter scum humans that will rudely interrupt conversations in person to get to non-important text messages on their phones, yet when you need them they are no where to be found on the mobile. Fuck them all I say. Useless users what do you need them for, really?
DeborahJanuary 19, 2018 #285 Author
I would do the same to them. Ignore them and play their game and slowly drop tbem. They can’t be worth much of a friend anyway.
UrmomsmyrideJanuary 22, 2018 #286 Author
Humans have this crazy, self-serving, bad habit I call “it.only.matters.when.I want.or.need.it.to.and.I.will.act.a.certain.way.in.response.to.your.behavior.but.damned.are.you.if.you.ever.do.it.to.me…” Because they are constantly holding others to certain expectations, without also upholding those expectations themselves. You can’t demand trust or respect from others if you don’t demand yourself to follow through accordingly. Lie to them, expect them to lie to you. Cheat them out of things, forget them, offend them etc… And you have just set yourself up to get all of it back. Then we wonder why there are no honest, decent human beings…. Well, you are what you eat, you are the energy you release into the universe, you are your own worst enemy. Do unto others as you would have done unto u. And, maybe we would be worthwhile as a species once again, with common courtesy and mutual respect in the forefront.
Saran FickMay 19, 2018 #287 Author
ChrisJune 16, 2018 #288 Author
I agree big time…..
AnnJune 27, 2018 #289 Author
I have a friend who disregarded my messages for a day and a half. I had asked if I had done something to upset her, to which she replied that she wasn’t upset and was just hanging out with her other friend who was visiting. This caused me to feel like I didn’t matter to her. The friend had been visiting for a week and a half and I had not heard anything from my friend. I sent a message that I understand not answering right away but treating me the way she did, was not ok. She responded that she was sorry I felt that way and that she puts her phone down when she has guests and gives them her undivided attention. Honestly, who does not pick up their phone to check messages at some point in the day, even when friends are visiting?
growthguidedJune 29, 2018 #290 Author
Sounds like something else might be going on for her.
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dani caliFebruary 19, 2019 #294 Author
well, i must have quite a knack… 3 of my ex boyfriends will not reply if i email or text them. my dad died last summer and i text my ex as i had been around for him when his parents died, and he didnt even reply. what a total s**t head. it’s just so mean. another, i found out he was getting married, and i text him congrats and i was happy for him. nothing back. i dont get why people have to be so effing mean.
alfMarch 14, 2019 #295 Author
rule 1 keep it short
rule 2 never text twice
rule3 for faster reply add the word MONEY
rule4 expect long response delays people are lazy,ignorant
rule 5 when they do txt back 4 hours later tell them you have spent their share of the winnings
growthguidedMarch 14, 2019 #296 Author
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daniApril 13, 2019 #297 Author
I think it’s pathetic to not reply to a text message, with just a few exceptions. If someone is being really abusive or threatening you, you wouldn’t reply to them. But for anything else, you are just being rude or passive aggressive or a coward if you don’t reply. I actually sent an apology to someone for having dumped him after only two dates as I felt bad, but I dumped him for good reason, and instead of him replying, he ignored it. so all it did was confirm i did the right thing. idiots.
everyone! :)March 29, 2021 #299 Author
Buy me master? Yeah. I heard that too. It’s pretty common