The results of conflict and emotional turmoil can bring up some intense feelings — maybe depression or aggression, maybe a deep yearning of love or potentially shock, maybe all you are feeling right now is blindsided confusion.
During this challenging time, I urge you to pick up a new practice.
Whatever you’re feeling right now, it’s unlikely to come from a place of compassion.
The truth is, we each have personally experienced what the other side is going through. The results of the conflict tend to be fall into a few categories of emotional pain that are experienced universally. We have each felt these emotions: feeling frustrated, powerless, angry, hopeful for change, distrusting, forsaken, or resistance to change.
Separate and feel each one of those feelings individually. Feel how difficult they are. Now imagine that someone from the other side is feeling those things.
Can you summon the courage to feel compassion for a fellow human being for feeling them. Feel a connection to them, because you too have suffered through this difficulty. Feel a connection to all your fellow humans who are going through their difficulties right now. Feel a connection to those people who you perceive as enemies.
Every last one of us are connected, even if we initially appear to have massive differences. We work and live together, we depend on each other, we support each other, we all are going through immense change and struggle, we all struggle in life and feel helpless to change in life.
The people you sit in conflict with other might have a different worldview that influences they decision making, but underneath, we all have the same soft hearts. And by seeking this this tender common ground, we can reconnect to each other in a compassionate way.