We constantly seek external confirmation, or praise, to value our own self worth from others. This recognition fades quickly and needing more pampering or ego initiates more attention seeking behaviours, whether it be constantly uploading pictures on Facebook for ‘likes’, creating drama so people will feel bad for you, or capturing peoples attention through negative critical banter. The amount of energy placed on creating such premeditated events takes far more away from you then you are attempting gain. We are so subconsciously wired to gain positive attention through the world of materialism and social media that it has become an endless internal race our egos put us in every day.
Take a few minutes right now, and think about where you have been seeking attention. Ask yourself what are you lacking in your life right now that the captivation of everyones attention will resolve for you? I’m waiting for your long list of justifications to start now (silly, isn’t it). Just maybe you stop and question your own delusional excuses for a second (this is a good thing). Then potentially even recognizing ones own dysfunctional behaviour. This is not a bad thing, don’t get down on yourself, but use it as a jumping off point to a more balanced perspective of yourself.
Our mind places far too much significance on ourselves, and over values our own importance in the world. This over barring belief system is incredibly stressful, and energy taxing to maintain. It is no wonder our nervous systems are utilized far too frequently to maintain attempting to balance the mental stress overload. We create mountains out of mole hills, and battles over simple differences in belief (because my point of view is better than yours). Fortunately this path of life can now take a turn. It is your choice to stay on the highway of blind superiority, masking out deep feelings inferiority and never taking responsibility for the feelings and emotions. Humility starts with real core values which focus on the needs of others first, supporting and being of service to others that are less fortunate than yourself. The more value placed on the growth of your neighbour, friend, or stranger in the community, the less you fight to fill the empty void that the ego is telling you to fill. What a relief !
Where do you get caught up with attention seeking behaviour?